I attended the nationwide Women’s march. It was incredible. I will have to write a whole article on that, but I can’t encompass it into words yet. I want to discuss today is how many men I witnessed at this march. I think that a lot of men are scared to identify themselves as feminists. Perhaps it's because they feel emasculated by the term, or that women are trying to take over or that females, might, in fact, be better than them. Perhaps it's because they associate feminism with women who will yell at them and never want to be with them. Many don’t, that’s true. And that’s ok. No woman owes any man anything. Ever. But I will say this. Personally, I find men who are feminist are extremely sexy. Of course, men shouldn’t subscribe to the ideals of feminism just for sexual gain or be more favorable in the eyes of women (PS I can always tell when you’re saying it just to get in my pants- and it doesn’t work). They should do it because it’s the right thing to do. But of course, this added gain of sex appeal doesn’t hurt. Here’s why.

*Side note: all of these are generalizations so of course, still proceed with caution. Also, this article is very hetero-normative, I’m sorry about that, that’s not to say these same things don’t apply in any type of relationship.

1. They don’t get all freaked out when I ask them out or want to pay.

I don’t really like to wait around. If I like a guy and he isn’t making a move, I usually end up asking them out. Some men get their feathers all rustled because of it. But, the ones who believe in strong women are usually very thankful; in fact, it takes the pressure off of them. And as far as who pays, I think it’s nice to switch off. Having a man always pay sort of makes me feel like I’m a commodity. I just think (if you/they can afford it) it's nice to switch off.

2. They understand the word, “NO” when you say it.

Where do I even begin on this? Let's just say that there’s is nothing less sexy than not listening to the word NO. If I know a man isn’t respecting my boundaries I will leave the situation faster than you can say, “Do you consent to this?” When I am certain that this man has my best interest in mind, I can relax and enjoy the situation, knowing that all activities will be consensual. And that isn’t just sexy, it's necessary.

3. They are (literally) better sexually.

Jeremy Allen White

Sexual activity is about everyone involved, and when a man understands that, it is wonderful. Men who only engage in sexual activity for themselves are pathetic. What is the point? But when you are in the company of a partner, don’t ignore them. Ask her what she wants and figure it out together.

4. They will empower you.

Women are strong and our achievements often go unnoticed and our dreams invalidated. When a guy supports my dreams and aspirations in a seriously genuine way, it brings us so much closer as a pair. When I am expressing my goals to a man and he brushes it off or acts like they are silly, he loses major points in my book. No matter how far fetched some of my ideas are, it's nice to have support.

5. They are more intelligent.

Matt McGorry

Intelligence is sexy. And that’s that.

6. They are comfortable in their own skin.

Usually, when a man is a feminist, he is comfortable in his masculinity, whatever that looks like to him. They aren’t afraid of being called “whipped” “weak” or god forbid a “pussy” because of their social enlightenment.

The list could go on. And on. But this is my message to you today. There are many reasons to be a feminist. (Most importantly being that it's cool to acknowledge that women are indeed people too), and this is just a nice perk. So, go forth and learn from these men who empower women every single day.