Every year, the infamous "The Bachelor" premiers on ABC. For some people, the hype is surreal. Groups of people gather every Monday at the same time excited to see who will leave the show and who will get a rose from the bachelor. Then there are people like me who yawn in disgust hearing anything related to the "Bachelor." I mean, you do you. If you like the bachelor then watch it, but there is no way in this lifetime that you will ever catch me watching it.
It hurts me to watch people compete for love from a stranger that they don't even know. Love isn't supposed to work like that. You can't expect this relationship to actually last without the years of sacrifice, commitment, and compromise. You need to learn how to love each other and give them the love that they need while also thinking about yourself. Instead, the show makes those women compete for love. I would feel horrible and hopeless if I had gotten to a point where I feel like I need to go on a show to find love.
This show is motivated by people's fear of being alone. I think that some of the girls are wounded so deep down that they don't think that they have any other possibilities ahead for them while others are in it for the camera time. Most of the time, the "The Bachelor" doesn't truly know the girl that he picks. It seems like he thinks that this one special girl is everything that he is looking for in a wife, but he doesn't know her more than the outside of her. He doesn't know her deepest desires, what makes her tick, the quirky things that she does constantly or even her favorite color.
The underlying message to this show is that women who are in their 20s are shown that they should be desperately looking for men to marry. This show makes women look like nutjobs. They literally get crazy throughout the season. They hurt each other in order to stay on the show and end the night with a rose.
I have watched one episode of "The Bachelor." Just one. If it showed me one thing, it was that I didn't need to be like any of the women on this show. Don't get me wrong, I don't know you and you don't know me, but while watching "The Bachelor," I have come to love myself more.
I know that I am capable of being alone and that someday I will find someone. I know that I don't have to compete with dozens of women for one man when I can find the one that will treat me like a princess because he fell in love with me and just me. I want someone who wants to ask me what my favorite color is, to remember what I said to him months ago about my dreams and desires, and someone who I can count on 100 percent of the time. I would never let myself get caught up in a fake image of what love is.
