In retrospect, fear has kept me out of many undesirable situations that ultimately would have led to some serious consequences. However, as I grow older and more confident, I am beginning to realize that these preconceived fears that I used to have are simply all creations of my own psyche.
For example, in my younger and more vulnerable days, social encounters were the most terrifying experiences imaginable. I couldn't speak to people without my heart rate rising, my chest getting tight, and my palms becoming clammy. I felt as though my entire world would come crashing down on me if I made one simple mistake in that certain situation, so I would push myself and strive for absolute perfection. Now, as I begin to realize the truly important things in life, it's becoming clear that acceptance from my peers isn't what I should strive for, but rather acceptance from myself. If you don't wholeheartedly believe in yourself and the ideas you're trying to convey, how could you possibly expect others to believe in you either?
As a culture we're conditioned to be afraid from a young age. The bar is set and you can't pass it. You must follow this strict set of guidelines or you won't make it. This world will tear you apart, unless you do what we say. These are all things that, whether we know it or not, have been drilled into our subconscious for years. We shouldn't live in fear of breaking the status quo and creating our own path. After all, the best story is never the one about the guy who did everything he was told.
I get it. You're worried that you might say something that someone won't agree with. The problem with this ideology is that conversation and argumentation are two of the biggest proponents of growth, both in the mind and in interpersonal relationships. Without a counterpoint to argue against you, there is no compromise and there is no communication of ideas. So, be reckless. Be imaginative. And for your own sake, be the person that you've always known you could be. There can only be one "you" and nobody can take that from you.
In the end, I believe that self-acceptance is one of the most important qualities a person can have. You should not be afraid of making your ideas heard. Radiating confidence and determination can improve your overall happiness and sense of fulfillment with life. So, I challenge you, reader, to reflect on these ideas. As you go about your daily routine, begin to ask yourself, why are you afraid?
