What to do While Alone

What to do While Alone

Single or literally alone just somethings to pass the time!
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Often we find ourselves alone, whether it is because we are single or there is literally no one around at the time. What are we supposed to do? Typically during this loneliness you may feel rather bored, and this is usually when the best Netflix binge watching will occur, but maybe there are more things you could be doing than just watching season after season after season! This is not a bad thing to do especially if you want to feel lonely (alone) binge watching may be a good idea but for those who are tired of this feeling let us break free from the blanket tying you down to your couch! Here are just a couple things that will allow you and maybe some friends to have a good time and to forget about being/feeling lonely!

1. Leave the house!

Really this is something to do but also the first step! Put on something nice but still comfortable to make you feel good but also to push you out the door. If I have a good outfit on I do not want to stay inside! This doesn't mean you need to have a place to go, go for a stroll (slow down and notice the walk you take to work each day), go for a drive(can get expensive), just hop down to the mall so people may see your outfit!!!

2. Go shopping.

Since we may have hopped to the mall from the last idea why not shop a little offline! Interact with a cashier instead of your laptop! Also what would be so wrong with spending a little money on yourself! Buy some stuff for maybe a new wardrobe or just buy some new things for the current one. You do not need to reinvent yourself but you will need new clothes before these get holes!

3. Reconnect with people.

Why not text your old high school best friend you haven't seen in years and meet up to just hang out! Nothing beats gossiping about all those stupid things you used to talk about in high school!! Also just hanging out with someone is a good way to beat loneliness, literally being with someone!

4. Enjoy nature.

Probably not for everyone but nothing is better than clearing your lungs on a nice hike! Usually the scenery is rather breath taking or at least refreshing! And if you go alone although kind of creepy at first it is rather freeing to be alone building strength!

5. Check out the movies.

Maybe after your long walk in the woods tired you out now it's time to sit and relax with a nice film! Maybe you bring your best friend maybe this again is an alone experience to help be more independent! Either way its a great way to do what you were doing on your couch but outside and interacting with at least the person giving you your refillable popcorn!

6. Stop by your local library.

The library is a great place to get out of the house! If you wanted to do something but don't want to deal with the noise of many people the library is a great place!! Quite and relaxing, you can start a new book while you're there and even pick up a movie to watch when reading becomes too much, Redbox also provides movies but at least you could say you went to the library if anyone asks!

7. Get productive.

Kind of sounds boring but cleaning your house can help you clean your mind! Also if you want to go shopping why not clean out the closet to make room for the new clothes and donate some of the old ones! You don't have to clean, you can reorganize maybe you want to reorganize your life so reorganizing/rearranging your room would not be a bad start!

By all means just have fun! Being lonely is not a bad thing I am an extrovert so I do feel lonely often but all I have to do is leave my apartment and see other humans and I usually feel better!! Enjoy your time alone or together, just enjoy your time!

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Making a Decision: an Indecisive Guide

To all the indecisive people out there: you are not alone

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I am the queen of indecision. For me, making a choice will have me frantically calling both of my parents, asking all of my friends' advice and postponing all studying until the decision is made. Of course, this is because I do not want to make a choice that I regret – such as the time I decided that starting my job at 6:30 am would be a good idea, or the time when I scared my friends with how hyper I was after drinking both coffee and Boba tea. Yet when I take this caution of making the wrong choice too far, the decision-making process itself ends up being regrettable. So much so that I called my mom approximately seven times this weekend to ask her advice on a decision. So much so that my brother used an example of me not being able to choose what kind of shoe I should wear in his article.

This weekend, I was presented with two amazing opportunities to make a difference in the world this summer and I entered a stage of decision paralysis that I did not know was possible. No matter which angle I looked at each situation from, they both would provide me with a phenomenal experience, and would both require sacrifices. Despite not (as of yet) reaching a concrete decision, I learned a lot about the decision-making process and what to do in the next time I am faced with a difficult choice. So, in the spirit of finding summer jobs, gearing up to register for classes and deciding what on earth we want to do with our futures, here are the tips and tricks that I would follow to make the best decision that you can.

Don't overthink it.

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Really, this goes without thinking! Or, unlike most of us, it goes with a LOT of thinking! Seriously though, if you overthink things, they will turn into a pudding mush in your brain until you don't know what you don't know anymore. There is a very fine line between thinking through all your options and overthinking them – and judging by the number of times I called my mom this weekend, definitely crossed it.

Always use the pro-con list

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Ah, the Gilmore Girls. Not only did you inspire me to read every single book under the sun or have a witty conversation full of cultural references no one else understands, but you also taught me the beauty of the pro-con list. Choosing what you want can be messy and difficult to find because of the fears you might have. distinguish from the fears. Writing it all down on paper can often illuminate the right decision and show you which path is ultimately better.

Decide on your make-or-break factor

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Sometimes even the best pro-and-con lists will not be enough and will leave you in a frantic analysis ("should I go for the decision with 3 cons or 3.5 cons?") When even the Gilmore method fails, fear not! Consider which factors you truly do not want to compromise on and go from there. This can mean that even the worse decision may be the right one for you.

Trust your gut

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As much as it is difficult to dig through your feelings to find your true motives behind a decision, your gut can sometimes tell you what you are most passionate about and therefore what decision is best for you to take. As my Emory Reads friends tell me, passion trumps everything. Choosing which decision aligns with your values will often lead you to make the best and most-satisfying decision.

But trust your head as well

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But your gut can't always be trusted. It can lie to you, and when you overthink too much, it can change its mind. Your gut feeling may be one that is furthermore borne out of fear of the other option. In that way, I have made many a good decision based on the pure basis of rationality. Using only our heart to make important decisions allows fear to be one of the factors, whereas looking at the decision rationally can help you see the ultimate path.

Ask around

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When I am puzzled about making a risky decision, I often consult the people in my life who are on my side and want the best for me. These people can help you gauge what your heart truly desires, bring up factors that you haven't considered and even act as a support network for you while making this decision. When your mind kicks into over-analysis, sometimes a fresh perspective is all you need to truly make a confident choice. Decisions are hard, people. Don't make them on your own.=

Don't ask everyone

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There is such a thing as consulting others to make an important decision, and there is such a thing as relying on them to make your decision. If you ask too many people from too wide a pool, you'll end up having opinions for and against what you are proposing, which means that someone will always be disappointed in your decision. The bottom line is, asking too many people for their opinions is frustrating, no matter what – whether they have contradicting opinions, or they just nod their heads and go "hmmm, tough choice" (thanks, I guess?). In order to avoid frustration, consult the people in your life who know you the best and are dearest to you, rather than the stranger in front of you in line for fries at the DUC.

"Would my dad be proud?"

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Or your granddad, or your mom, or your professor, or even a TV character. Whoever you know whose morals you can measure your decision up to will often provide reason and illumination. If the decision you are making is not too wild and you feel that you will have their approval, then it is likely not detrimental.

Stick with your decision!

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Resolutely make up your mind and refuse to turn back. Exercise your right as a free individual to make a choice for yourself, and then do not second-guess it. Please don't do what I did and email a company two days later saying you've changed your mind. Please.

There is not always a right decision

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Sometimes both decisions you are presented with have different but equally good opportunities. In that case, lucky you! You have two amazing opportunities and therefore cannot mess up. Rather than stressing that you are picking the wrong choice, know that you cannot go wrong in either.

Realize you will grow no matter what

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Decision-making should be viewed as a challenge and a privilege rather than a burden. Make big, bold and beautiful decisions. Making up your mind can lead to a phenomenal experience that you will adore or a difficult experience that will only fashion you into a better person. Positive consequences can come out of any decision, even if we land in an upsetting position. Each choice we make can positively contribute to our character, fashioning us into the person we are becoming, day by day.


By the time this article is published, I will know my decision. And hopefully, by the end of this article, you will know yours. Let's continue to make decisions courageously, following both our heads and our hearts. Let's be determined to grow through our decisions, realizing that we have made the best choice we could, and never looking back.

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