I always thought I had the perfect idea of what heartbreak was. To me, it was staring out the window at a rain-drenched garden, the only sounds being the rain as it fell upon the window and the crackle and pop of a record as it made its revolutions upon the turntable. I thought it was eating a gallon of ice cream, tears streaming down your face while watching the final scene from some romantic comedy where the lovers declare their love for one another. I thought it was when we find the ones who'll truly love us. But, it is none of these things. It is something more intense than that

Heartbreak is when you lay awake at night, staring at the darkened ceiling, wondering what you could have done to make them stay. Heartbreak is replaying the happy moments of the past in your head, remembering the way their lips felt upon yours. Heartbreak is seeing their image everywhere you go, in everything you do. Heartbreak is when you're listening to a song and suddenly you're transported back to the exact moment you fell for them. Heartbreak is feeling like you've had a great big hole blown through your chest and you realize how empty and alone you are without them.

It is not, unfortunately, a constant feeling: it comes in waves. Some days, the waves are large and engulfing, thrashing you about as you try to keep your head above water. Other days, they are small and gentle, pushing you back to shore with the force of a child.

When you're heartbroken, people will try and comfort you with such cliché phrases as "it'll get easier" and "you were too good for them anyways!". While I understand these are meant to provide comfort, it sounds like a cheap sentiment meant to change the subject.

I think what's the most heartbreaking thing is when you look back at your messages and watch as the timestamp changes from a couple of days ago, to a month ago. You wonder if the person is thinking of you, if they're suffering just as much as you are, if they regret ever leaving you behind. All you can do is hope that they are.

No matter how long a relationship lasts, whether it be one month or one year, heartbreak will still be there.

Don't allow anyone tell you how you're supposed to feel about it.