The holiday I dread all year: Valentines Day.
Personally if you ask me, Valentines day is such a pointless holiday. It just makes companies that make cards and teddy bears a lot of money, and wherever you go, you get whiffs of flowers and you never want to see another rose again.
I’ve always hated Valentines day. Well actually, I starting hating it in middle school. My reasoning was always what I listed above, as well as it just gives girls a reason to be pissed at their significant others for not getting them what they wanted, or not making reservations at the restaurant they wanted.
Whenever I told someone I hated Valentines day, they immediate reaction was, “That just because you’re single. When you get a boyfriend you’ll like it.” I always denied it, and no one believed me. I don’t blame them since I was never in a relationship on Valentines Day. However this year, for the first time, I had a boyfriend for Valentines Day. And guess what? I still hate Valentines Day.
Being a girl, in a relationship, who hates Valentines day, gives me an interesting perspective if you ask me. I’m not seeing the over advertised holiday as an assumed to be, bitter single woman, but as someone who should love the holiday, but just doesn’t.
Hating Valentines Day automatically makes for an awkward conversation with my boyfriend, because I'm expected to be excited for it, and already have ideas about what I want to do. But in reality, the conversation went more like this:
Him: So what are we doing on Valentines day?
Me: We’re doing something?
Him: Well, I’d assume so…
Me: Do we have to?
Him: You don’t want to?
Me: Not really.
Him: We should do something.
Me: Can we just pretend it isn’t Valentines Day, then?
Him:…sure?
He was very confused, to say the least.
As I was getting ready to go out, I was excited to see him, like usual, but I just hated that we were going out because society decided that you don’t have feelings for each other if you were able to do something, but didn’t.
Also, shouldn’t we just love each other all the time? I don’t understand why there was to be a day where we have to buy flowers and other gifts just to prove something that we should be showing each and every day. Valentines Day should be something that’s appreciated by anyone involved, but instead becomes something that is expected. Everyone builds up these massive expectations, when they rarely are 100% met.
Regardless of my relationship, I just don’t like the ideas that Valentines Day provides power. If you like Valentines Day, that's great for you, and I hope all your hopes are met. (This is just the irrelevant opinion of an 18 year old college student, don’t take any offense.)
Happy Valentines Day!
