At Texas A&M University, thousands of students gather in Reed Arena on Tuesday nights for Breakaway Ministries. They come to hear the word of God as told by a Texas A&M alum named Timothy Ateek, better known as TA.
I was one of the students that gathered in Reed last Tuesday night, and I felt as if part of TA’s message was written with me specifically in mind. I had a feeling there were many students who felt the same way, even some who were not in attendance. This is what I took home from Breakaway.
The lesson, part 2 of a 5-week series, focused on “When we believe in Jesus, but still need to be in control.” The first aspect that TA pointed out that college kids struggle with not having control over is their enoughness. This is the aspect that made my ears perk up and listen.
Recently, I have had many talks with my best friend about feeling inadequate. We had both talked about the things that we lack, the things we can not control, and the things we can work to make better about ourselves. It comes to down to one question you can fill in any way you want: am Iblankenough?
The example used to visualize this lack of enoughness was the television show The Voice. On the voice, contestants vulnerably put their talents on display for a panel of judges in hopes that they might be good enough for one of them to turn around.
Who are the judges on your panel?
The most common judges in the lives of college students are your parents, your organizations, him/her, and God.
Parents. They raise you and teach you what they can and send you off to college. You hope to make something of yourself for them and make them proud in what ways you can. But we all wonder from time to time, are they really proud of me? Here I am, spending their money and forgetting to call them and making mediocre grades, what have I done to make them proud?
You are trying. You go to class and you study and you call them when you get a chance. You are growing independent and becoming an adult yourself. And you know what God says you are? He says you are beloved.
Organizations. This is where a lot of people find their identity in college, or their niche if you will. It is not where you should find those things though. The application process for these organizations makes you question your confidence. Am I smart or funny enough? Better yet, am I engaging enough?
Coming from someone who applied for four different organizations last year and after being denied from all of them decided that this university must actually hate me, ignore those negative thoughts about yourself. The timing did not go perfectly according to my own plan, but it did to his. I am happily involved in the right places and my God says that I am adopted.
Him / her. I know I am not the only one, but I wonder every single day who it is I am going to marry and when they are going to walk into my life. I do not even want a boyfriend right now, but I still find myself craving male attention and wanting to go on a date. I look at people in relationships on my Instagram popular page and I am jealous. I wonder am I pretty enough? Do I make a bad first impression?
I have a list in my journal of things I would want in a relationship and it is unbelievably unrealistic. A person made perfectly for me could walk in and I still don’t think he would check all the boxes. So why do I look down on myself for not checking all the boxes on the imaginary list in my head? I do not know. It is very sad when I think that I am not enough when the one who made the universe thought to make me, too. After all, He says I am the bride of Christ.
God. How do you please someone who is the greatest being in existence? You forget to read your Bible, you sleep through church, and sometimes you curse. You feel like you disappoint him way more than you could ever please him. You question His plan and His timing, sometimes even His love for you. You wonder, am I godly enough?
No, you are not godly enough. We are all sinners. But man, isn’t it a relief to think that it’s never too late to come home? You can’t outrun grace, and mercy does not care what you’ve done. You lack nothing through him. We are counted righteous in the eyes of God when we receive Jesus by faith. (Phil. 3:9)
You do not have to be enough, because Jesus has been enough for you!
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. - 2 Corinthians 12:9