Some of these may seem obvious, but a lot of times, standing up for yourself is easier said than done. Don't make excuses for someone who doesn't meet your expectations or always leaves you guessing. Wait for someone who fills the boxes that you didn't even know you needed checked off.
If you doubt how he feels about you:
You should never be left wondering if you're important to someone.
If he doesn't make time for you:
Real talk: if he wants to see you, he will. If you find yourself waiting by the phone for that text asking you to hang out, it might be time to move on.
If you feel like you have to make him pay attention to you:
You are 100% worth a guy's undivided attention.
If doesn't tell you how much you mean to him:
You deserve affirmation, not just sometimes, but all the time.
If he is mean to you:
This should go without saying but I'll say it anyway: your feelings matter.
If he makes you feel stupid:
Guess what? You're not stupid. You have a beautiful mind with original thoughts and ideas. You deserve a guy that hangs on your every word.
If he makes you feel crazy:
If you feel like a crazy, jealous mess, he's probably giving you good reason to feel like that. Let me say it louder for the people in the back: your feelings matter.
If he isn't there for you at all times (the good, bad, and boring times):
Does he ask about your day? Is he genuinely interested? What may seem like small talk or a meaningless question, is actually pretty important.
If he doesn't want to show you off:
He should take screenshots of your snapchats because you're freaking adorable. He knows it, and so do all of his friends, because he won't shut up about you. You should never be a secret, you should be headline, breaking news.
If he wants you to wait around:
Have you ever seen The Holiday? Don't be Kate Winslet in The Holiday. Any guy worth having will see what's in front of him, and snatch you up. If it's "not the right time", he's not the right guy.
If he doesn't care about the little things:
He should want to know your favorite candy, what your coffee order is, your pet peeves, whether or not you care about politics. It's small, but it matters.
If he doesn't love your heart as much as he loves your body:
You're hot, it's true, but is he chasing after your heart as hard as he's chasing after your body? Is he protecting your heart (i.e. taking your feelings into consideration, getting to know you, making sure there's no confusion about where you stand) as much as he's protecting you physically? This one might be the most important for women in this day and age of casual sex and 'Netflix and Chill'. Chemistry has it's place in a relationship, but if you get the feeling that's all he's sticking around for, I doubt you are wrong. Love yourself enough to date someone who loves all of you, not just your rockin' bod.
The fear of being alone is real and it's scary, but don't be afraid to pull a Beyoncé and tell him 'boy bye'.
