High schoolers deal with a lot. Schoolwork, extracurriculars, applying to college, maintaining a close family relationship and to top it all off, drama. There is more drama in high school than any other time in life. But this drama isn't real drama. It's minor issues people turn into a big deal.
There are two main ways of dealing with drama. Pushing back and making it worse, or taking the high road. Personally I like to take the high road. I've found that over my years of high school all of the fighting and arguing over this dumb drama is just not worth it. It's so much better to accept that what is happening, is just not important and move on. So apologize. Even if you've done nothing wrong. Simply apologize and say I'm sorry you felt that way, that was not my intention. If the person comes around and apologizes to you, great.
What happens when they don't. What happens when they're still mad at you and still trying to argue. They're still talking behind your back. Sometimes, taking the high road doesn't work out. Honestly, it does suck. The only thing you want is for your friendships to go back to how they were and for all of this to end. But it doesn't. Instead, you find out your friend still hates you and is still talking trash. You sit there feeling like an idiot because this person won't accept your apology.
So what do you do. Do you reach out to them again? No. Do you start talking bad about them? No. Do you jump right back in and make the drama even worse? No. All you do, is let it be. I know this seems hard. What I've learned is that it's not only best for you mentally, it's better for everyone. No one really wants to hear about the drama you're dealing with. It will give those around you relief and give you the peace of mind knowing you did the right thing. Often times, just forgetting about the issue, makes the person causing the drama get mad or confused. They will wonder why you stopped fighting. Yes, it temporarily may make things seem worse, but it will lead to things getting much better. Eventually this person will come to their senses and realize the drama was not important. More importantly, they will, 99% of the time, apologize to you. For whatever they did. They'll apologize for causing it and making things worse.
Drama in high school may seem like the worst thing ever when it first happens. It just takes time to learn and accept that you need to do what's best for yourself. Not allowing yourself to succumb to these levels of fighting and arguing just proves how strong of a person you are.
High school is full of life changing events and lots of stress, don't let this extra drama bring you down. Allow it to make you stronger and better as a person.
