Over the course of your life, you will experience many emotions. Some of these emotions will be good and others will be bad. Among these emotions, I believe that the feeling of disappointment is one of the hardest to deal with. When you are angry, sad, happy or even confused, you are hopefully able to overcome those feelings and try to move on with them. They are emotions that everyone experiences at various points in their lifetime. People can come together over them to potentially help or celebrate such feelings, but when a person is disappointed, it is hard to face and describe. Disappointment sits with you and you relive the moments leading up to the blow. Of course, any emotion can sit with you, but there is something about disappointment that really attacks you from the inside out. Questions are asked about what you could have done better or done to have potentially eased the blow from it or even done to have stopped it. But it’s harder to know that sometimes with disappointment, you can do absolutely nothing about it.
It is one thing to work hard for something and have it taken away, but it is a whole other ballgame when a person is cause for the disappointment. A large majority of us have experienced that moment when our parents say, “We aren’t mad, we are just disappointed.” When you’re a kid, you don’t really understand that meaning. So they’re just disappointed and not mad? I was always so much more relieved when I heard that because I couldn’t understand its full effect until I was older and felt true disappointment. It is such a deeply rooted feeling of hurt that anger doesn’t even justify what is feels like. To be disappointed with someone means you are so hurt by them or their actions that you feel like your heart has been broken a little bit.
In life, disappointment is inevitable. There will be times where you will work for something so hard, put your ass out on the line, and even so that thing you worked so hard for disappears in front of you. Yes it sucks. It sucks so much that you want to scream, but you can’t let that disappointment outweigh the fact that you proved to yourself that you can, in fact, work hard for something. That in and of itself is an accomplishment. But that doesn’t mean that you still won’t feel disappointed, hurt or angry about it. Is it fair? Of course not, but as the saying goes, life isn’t fair, and that is a hard lesson to learn.
