They always told me to be careful with scissors, but now I realize they're one of my favorite tools. And no, I do not mean arts and crafts, I am speaking metaphorically. Sometimes you need to realize that letting go is much easier than holding on. Holding onto something or someone that continues to destroy you is degrading and you need to stop it as quick as you can. Some people may not see that they're getting hurt right away, but after a while, they become numb to it and they are so paralyzed that they hold on forever. If you are holding onto something that is negative in your life and you are continuing to hurt from it: do yourself a favor and take the scissors and cut the ties.
You shouldn't be controlled. You shouldn't be restrained. You are your own person and you have the ability to do whatever your heart desires. There is no heart in the world that truly wants to be hurt 24/7 and it's important to know that you're not alone. You need to listen to your heart and feelings and also other's opinions. While you may not admire their opinion a lot, you may want to hear what they have to say, and understand how they see you through their eyes. Bystanders, friends, family, and even significant others can tell when you're being hurt, even when you're numb to it. Whether you are being hurt by someone who is blood or not, you can still suffer a great deal and you need to know that it's OK to leave them in the past.
Some discreet ways people will hurt you are:
Verbal Taunting:
They will make remarks about you, from the way you look to the way you talk. They keep doing this and most of the time they will get in your head and stick with you for a very long time.
Physical Abuse:
They use their physical force against you and they control you with threats.
Financial Abuse:
They use your money, with or without your consent.
Mental Abuse:
They control your thoughts, emotions, and even your image of yourself.
So no matter what type of abuse you're in, make sure you get out while you can. Look for support from family and friends. Ask the person if they really like you for you, or if they're just using you to fill some sort of want. Being controlled or hurt by another shouldn't be a normal thing for anyone, and for those that are, I want to tell you that you don't deserve that and you can get out of it. Take those scissors and cut them out. Cut every tie you have with that perpetrator and make sure that they can't hurt you any further. Save yourself the pain and agony of being in a hostile environment and get out.
