We all know during the holidays it's a constant reminder of how single and lonely we are. When you visit relatives and they want to know who you are dating, only to find out that you're single. Then your aunt begins to talk about this handsome grocery store clerk and your mom tries to shut her up. It's a whole routine, for those who are single during the holidays, you understand.Especially since the three holidays that constantly remind you of your loneliness are back to back to back. Not really necessary to name them, but I will anyway. One, Christmas. Two, New Years. And Three, Valentines Day.

Being single, couples are like the red pen through the perfect essay paper because they stand out so vividly. You see all those couples, in their bundled up outfits, holding hands and kissing and think "ugh! Enough is enough already." You see these couples and get jealous of the love they share for one another. You might even think to yourself, "maybe I should've forgiven my ex for cheating or I should've said yes to the 40 year old 7/11 clerk asking me out..." These visuals make your mind wonder and begin to regret possibilities, but don't let it get to you.

Don't let these couples, who found their soulmates early or happen to be having a romantic evening out, make you lower your standards. Many people will say, "maybe you just have high expectations because of your dad or because you've seen other couples." Maybe you just have high expectations... maybe you just have high expectations? Hmmm... Maybe I just know my worth and expect a man to pick me up from my house, I expect him to care when become ill, I expect him to bond with my family just like he expects me to bond with his, I expect him to accept and love all of me, flaws included. These "expectations" should be the norm (Now I am talking from a women's POV, but this goes both ways).

No matter what, do not settle because I think that's why so many people have divorced. They feel like they NEED to get married, so they lower their standards, bottle up their feelings and begin to lose themselves. Eventually, one person wants more than what they've been given for the last 15 years and the other person is annoyed or resents their partner.

Now I'm not ganna be a cliche and say, "You will find your true love when you least expect it" (eye roll). But, I will tell you that constantly expecting or looking for your soulmate will drive you insane. Believe me! Everywhere you go, you expect him to come through the doors and just directly approach you. Honey, stop thinking, stop looking, and enjoy the here and now. Talk with your friends that you went out with, take a chance and try karaoke, go out on the dancing floor. Even better, LAUGH. Laugh. Smile. Find joy in that TV show you watch on Netflix or your favorite song that comes on the radio, or those Joe Biden memes.

There are so many things to be happy and grateful for such as your family, your job, your education, your best friend, your new car, your pet; I mean the list could go on. Enjoy doing what you want, when you want to do it just because you can.