Once trust issues are developed, there's almost no turning back. No matter how strong the love is that surrounds you, the constant and inevitable feeling that something else is actually happening behind your back never really fades. Having trust issues is like absolutely 100% knowing for a fact that something is true, but having two devil's on your shoulders telling you that it can't be - that something about it is a lie - don't believe it. Having trust issues is like drowning on purpose. You're holding yourself under water telling yourself to go up for air, but you can't and you won't. Having these issues obviously has a root, somewhere they developed and came from. And to the other girls or boys that have these issues, you'll find a way to let someone into your heart. There is a way!

Trust issues get in the way of everything. It gets in the way of friendships, dreams and goals, and the most common... relationships. One of the most obvious key components of a great relationship is trust. Obviously, if one or even both of the people in the relationship has these issues, a lot can go wrong. So, if you're a person that has experienced this or is currently experiencing a relationship with trust issues, here are a few things to expect, or that you have heard/felt.

1.) "Are you still there?"

It sounds so simple, and like there is no hidden agenda. But when your significant other is somewhere else, a part of you wonders. Especially for those who gained their trust issues from a past relationship that ended with being cheated on - that's where this comes in the strongest. It seems like it could be such a simple question, but in all reality - it's complex. You sit or maybe you're doing something and then something comes over you and you wonder what he/she is doing. Are they still at their best friends house? Did they go out? Are they in a group? Am I being left out for a reason? These are the questions that shoot through your thoughts at a mind-blowing rate, even if you know that he/she is doing just what they told you they were, you still wonder and can't help but overthink.

2.) "Remember when you said/did..."

Have you ever heard the saying overthinking kills? Well that saying turns into reality for someone with trust issues. Laying in bed at night and the memories and thoughts hit you like a train all at once.You think of all the times you've been lied to, and it makes you feel betrayed all over again, even if it happened forever ago. So you feel like you need an even bigger explanation on it to make yourself feel better about it again. So you ask your boyfriend/girlfriend if they remember when whatever it was happened, and you ask them to re-elaborate on the situation, causing a problem and maybe even an argument or fight between you two. But, you couldn't help it. It's uncontrollable to think.

3.) "So who all have you dated? Like what's their names? Do I know them?"

Not that we get mad over what girls/boys our significant other has dated or been with, but it still matters to us. We just have to know as a reassurance type deal. "Why does it matter?" Well, we just literally need to know. Because then I compare myself to them and I see if I'm a lot different from them, and then I wonder why me? It happens. Believe it or not, people with trust issues find it comforting to know who was your past.

4.) "Do you still love me?"

This is a big one. Knowing that we're still loved the same to prevent something bad from happening to us means so much. Having the reassurance that we're not going to be left, and that we are still doing okay means a lot. The feeling of knowing that you are still enough is so important.

5.) "If you want something or someone else I would completely understand and wouldn't be mad at you at all"

As someone with trust issues, feeling like you're not enough is a constant re-occurrence. It's never ending, and even if your significant other tells you every single day that you are enough, you are beautiful, you are perfect, so on and so forth, you still think deep down that you aren't. So you want to let them know that you're aware that they can do better, and you want them to know you won't blame them if they decide that, too.

Of this short list, there are still many things to expect when dating someone with trust issues. Remember, you are great, and you're doing the best you can. We understand. Find someone that puts your heart and mind to ease, and they will be there with you every step of the day.