In 2016, it seems like we as women has reached both a high point and a low point in the perception of women's bodies. Girls are more aware then ever of the discrepancies between how men and women are treated, and many of them are working to shorten that distance. Lots of movements have been started and there's one in particular that has spread like wildfire: the body positivity movement. Started in 1996 by Connie Sobczak and Elizabeth Scott, this movement focuses on making sure women feel comfortable in their own skin, regardless of their weight or appearance.
20 years later, this has exploded into second language for a lot of girls. On social media especially, girls post selfies with "#BodyPositive" underneath them. Unfortunately, a lot of women use this particular hashtag and mindset to show off their already-perfect figures or low cut clothing. While I have absolutely no problem with confidence of any kind, I think this can sometimes send the wrong message to younger girls.
The entire point of the body positivity movement is to enable all women to be confident in who they are, regardless of whether or not they fit the beauty standard forced upon females. It isn't an excuse to show off your body, but you can choose to be confident in that way. Confidence shows itself differently in each person. But, here's what's important to remember.
Being body positive does not have to mean showing your body off.
You can love your body and still feel more comfortable in modest clothing. You can love your curves and still wear loose-fitting clothing because let's face it, it's just more comfortable. You don't have to prove your confidence to everyone by posting daily bikini selfies and labeling them "#BodyPositive." Social media actually has a negative effect on confidence because the second someone posts a negative comment, all previous confidence is lost.
There are many ways to be body positive and like I said before, they are different for everyone. The easiest way to be body positive is to learn to love the body that you have. This does not mean you can't strive for better, but it does mean that you don't rely on outside influences for your inner confidence. Love yourself not just at the finish line, but during the journey. Be proud of yourself.
It also important to remember how instrumental you can be to the body positivity of other people. Support other women in their own confidence and do not tear them down for loving their bodies. Having confidence isn't arrogant or annoying, it's necessary.
Never apologize for being body positive, ladies. Wear what you want and wear it proudly. But, just remember: showing off your confidence doesn't just mean showing off your body. You don't owe anybody any part of you. Respect and confidence starts within.
