What is Love?
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What is Love?

Defining love by what it is not.

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What is Love?
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Love is tough to put into words. Most people don't get it right on the first try. It takes a lot to put someone else before yourself and care for them unconditionally. Love is not something that comes easy. It takes commitment and sacrifice. Sometimes when things are difficult to define, it makes more sense to define them by what they aren't.

Love is not having to beg for their attention. If you have to beg someone to spend time with you or to pay attention to you while you're together, they are not worth your time. Your time shared with the person who supposedly loves you should be special and you shouldn't have to feel like you're not deserving of their attention.

Love is not feeling insecure that you'll lose the person you love to someone else. If you're constantly fearful of this, that's really no way to live. Chances are, it will happen. You should feel secure in your relationship. If you don't feel like you're the only person they want, you deserve better. Never sacrifice your own happiness for someone else's.

Love is not being walked all over. If you're in any kind of relationship where you feel like you're constantly being treated like you're lesser than the other person, you're not with the right person. They should never make you feel like you're not good enough- they should be encouraging you to be the best person you can be and you should do the same for them. You shouldn't be tearing each other down every chance you get.

You should not have to constantly be scolding them for not treating you right and you shouldn't be upholding false hopes that they'll change. You can only give someone so many chances before you come to terms with the fact that it isn't going to work out.

Love is not about who's right or wrong. Love is about agreeing to disagree. Love is putting someone else before yourself. Love is being accepting of the other person and realizing that you both make mistakes but being willing to work through them together.

When love prevails, everyone wins. If it is love, you should not have to feel like you've lost the fight. If you feel like you're constantly fighting a losing battle, that's not love.

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