What I Learned From Cutting My Social Media Usage In Half

What I Learned From Cutting My Social Media Usage In Half

Don't let FOMO get the best of you.
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In today’s day of age, it seems as if the most important thing is to be constantly in the know and updated at every minute with what is going on. Social media plays a big role in this with providing ways to have tabs on everyone’s lives at each moment. It technically all began in 1979 with Usenet, which was where posts about news could be made for newsgroups. It continued from there on, developing more and more. When I became aware of social media, it was Myspace in 2003, where it was taboo for anyone in middle school to have it. Some parents allowed it, but in my family it was forbidden. To me, this is where the idea of FOMO began. For the people who do not what FOMO is, it is an acronym for fear of missing out.

After Myspace came Facebook in 2004, the flow of social media began to come rolling out like a snowball down a hill. It was Flickr, YouTube, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder, Vine, Pinterest, LinkedIn and some in between. As each progressed, more accounts were made and the average person was found as odd if they didn’t have an account on most of these sites or apps. My first touch of social media began when I pleaded my mom to have a Facebook account, but just for the use of Farmville and similar games I saw my friends playing. As I grew older, I began posting on a regular basis and eventually expanded my social media presence by getting a Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest, and I’m sure some startups that I can’t recall. Why did I feel the need to have more than one account on the Internet? Well of course because everyone else was doing it and I didn’t want to miss out on anything! Social media wasn’t only a place on your phone or computer, it extended into real life conversations and the social hotspots for anything and anyone.

When time passed, my Facebook use dwindled down like many, and I turned to the newer social Medias, such as Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat. What I began to realize though is eventually I wasn’t going on to post anymore, but just too constantly see what others were up to. Endless minutes or evens hours spent on scrolling through news feeds to not get behind on what was happening at each moment. I had FOMO much like the rest of the population. About a year or so ago I realized this and just how much senseless time I was wasting on my phone and not being present in real time. I found myself looking at everyone’s Snapchat stories or Instagram feeds and feeling like I was missing something in my life because I wasn’t part of what everyone was doing. People post all these “amazing” things, to show off to other people just how great their lives are. But in reality, did anybody ever think that there is more to just someone’s social media profile? Why would people post the downs of their lives? They wouldn’t. Only the best of people are out there, creating a façade.

As this hit me pretty hard, I realized I did not need to make myself feel bad because I wasn’t part of what everyone else was doing. I didn’t need to spend hours on my phone through all social media sites or apps just to know that so and so was “Having a great day with my gals eating ice cream!” or “Look at me in this selfie, I love life”. I wasn’t going to be missing anything important at all if I didn’t engage. So, I put a stop to it. Twitter saw the delete button, as did Snapchat. Facebook was at a tossup with deleting, along with Instagram, but I figured I could save them for longer. Some may say this was a silly thing, because social media is how the world thrives today. But to my surprise, I thoroughly enjoy being without these apps and many more.

There are many pros to not having Twitter or Snapchat: not viewing annoying posts, less screen time, being in the present, overall better positivity, and just this sense of freedom. I am not tied down to technology and until you do it, you will never fully understand this sense of bliss. Yes, I still have Facebook and Instagram, Pinterest, well I just couldn’t live without that one. But I’m not using these apps for FOMO, I’m using them because I want to and it’s in my own personal interest, not others. Facebook is a way to stay in touch with people I don’t get to see often, and Instagram, well a picture is worth a thousand words. Pinterest is something I will always keep close just because it actually has worth contributing to my life. I use it for my DIYs, homemade recipes, book suggestions, and much more.

I don’t mean to be a Debby Downer with bashing social media. Social media is a huge part of our functioning world at this time and many corporations and people use it to their advantage. It is a way to connect with friends, spread news, get out important messages, raise money, and more. Yet, I am saying do not let this technology and bubble of social media abuse you, use it to your personal benefit and not for wasting time. Some jobs and professions may not allow you to detach from social media. However, if I cannot fully convince you of decreasing your online presence, try to at least do a one-week detox or something of the sorts. Experience what it is like to be without a few social media accounts or even technology as a whole. I can promise you that this will not tarnish your image or harm you in anyway, there truly are only benefits that can be found.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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You Can Tell The Difference Between Momentary Happiness And Deeper Happiness

"At the end of your life, go out with a bruised-up, worn out heart that gave too much and loved too strongly and felt too fiercely. Go out with the certainty that you gave it everything you had and didn't hold anything back". - Heidi Priebe

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First level happiness: Momentary

Momentary happiness is waking up early and watching the sunrise. It's the first sip of coffee in the morning. It's a big breakfast before a long day of doing what I love.

Momentary happiness is stepping into the restaurant I love and being surrounded by the people who have watched me grow up these past three years. It's understanding that this thing is about family just as much as it is business. It's falling in love with every early morning and every late night. It's learning that hard work isn't hard if you love what you're doing.

Momentary happiness is hitting a new personal record at the gym. It's that smile plastered across my face every time I enter a team huddle. It's down on one knee, all eyes on me. It's feeling the trust my team has in me. It's the feeling of joy when my number gets called. It's the burning in my lungs because I know that I gave it my everything. It's not being able to move without wincing the next day because the game asked for my hustle and I gave it my heart.

Momentary happiness is the instant you see someone you love and can't help but smile. It's the tight hug between you and someone that means the world to you. It's the weight off your shoulders when you finally express your true feelings. It's holding your breath as you wait for a response. Monetary happiness is being scared but doing it anyway.

Momentary happiness is coming home at night and having your dog jump on you the moment you open the door. It's your parents smiling, knowing you got home safe.

Momentary happiness is driving without a destination and simply reflecting on life. It's taking a step back and allowing myself to be aware of my breathing and existence. It's allowing myself to find pleasure in the little things.

Momentary happiness is getting accepted into college. It's getting that job. It's making the Dean's list. It's acing the test you study so hard for. It's watching your hard work pay off. It's finding your people. It's all the things that make you proud of yourself and happy to be alive.

Momentary happiness was buying my dream car at age 17 without my parents help.

A Deeper Happiness:

A deeper happiness is finding beauty in vulnerability. Not holding back my feelings and telling people how magnificent they are because people don't get told that enough. A deeper happiness is allowing me to feel everything deeply and without explanation. It's finding beauty in the madness and trusting the process.

Life's about getting lost in passion and dedicating myself to the things that matter most. It's wanting success as bad as I want to breathe. It's about taking that jump and seeing if I can land it, and if I don't, it's about being crazy enough to give it one more try. Life's about risking it all even if the outcome is uncertain. A deeper happiness is seeing myself grow into the person I've always wanted to become. Deeper happiness is being able to keep my promises to myself and others.

Life is about being empathetic. Finding out someone's story and attempting to understand their actions. It's about not taking things personally and allowing for second chances, even thirds. It's understanding that not every action needs a reaction. A greater happiness is caring for those around me just as much, if not more, than myself.

Life is embracing hardships and disappointments. Understanding that knowledge comes from experience and disappointments are all apart of the journey. A deeper happiness is understanding that this to shall pass. It's being able to laugh and smile even though things didn't go my way because everything that is meant to be will be. It's understanding that I will be stronger because of my defeats.

A deeper happiness is putting myself in hard situations, situations I know will hurt me. It's helping people get through their hard times. A deeper happiness is being the reason someone smiled. It's being the shoulder to cry on. It's wearing my heart on my sleeve because I would rather feel everything than nothing at all.

A deeper happiness is giving everything I have and being a better person than I was yesterday. Making my friends and family proud but myself prouder. A deeper happiness is leaving my mark on the world. It's about leaving a person, situation, and world better than I found it.

A beautiful, fulfilling life is one that money can't buy.

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