When I was a freshman in high school I thought I had my life figured out and that I knew who I was as a person. Little did I know, over the next four years of my life I would encounter some of the most substantial and impactful experiences that would shape me into who I am today. I dealt with death, heartbreak, loss, and a lot of self-doubt. Looking back on high school now, I realize that although during the time it was incredibly difficult, I have learned so much about myself, others, and the world in general. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with some of the things I've learned, but I am a much better person because of it.
1. It is NEVER too late to do anything
Often we are made to feel that we need to have everything figured out as soon as we turn 18. In reality, we have so much time to decide and change our minds. There is no "right" decision to make in terms of our life choices either. Do whatever makes you happy.
2. People will hurt you
The ones you love seem to hurt you the most, and it does suck having someone you admire put you down. Even though getting hurt is a normal part of life, it can be hard to get over.
3. Overuse “I love you”
I am a firm believer in saying "I love you" as much as possible. I always try to tell people I love and appreciate them because you never know when it might be the last time you tell someone you love them. Also, by showing them you are fond of them through your actions, they will truly feel important.
4. Education is what you make of it
College is not for everyone. High schoolers for some reason are made to feel that the only option once they graduate is to go to college and continue their education. If school is not your thing, that’s fine. If you love it, that’s fine too.
5. Conformity will ruin you
There is no point in trying to be like everyone else for the purpose of fitting in. Make your own choices and be the person you want to be.
6. Finding something you are truly passionate about is not easy
Everyone's life has a purpose, and everyone is made to do something different with their life. Finding your passion might happen when you are sixteen and it might happen when you are fifty. Be patient.
7. Learning to forgive others will seriously change your life for the better
The task of trying to forgive someone can be extremely difficult. Being able to forgive others and move forward really helps you grow as a person, and it can alleviate a lot of stress.
8. Take chances
It might be a cliche, but taking chances is an essential part of growing up. You never know if you like something or not unless you give it a shot.
9. Your best friend will not always be your best friend, but you will make a new one
Nobody wants to think about their best friend not being their best friend anymore. Losing someone you care so much about is hard, but there will always be another person that comes into your life to replace the last.
10. It does get better. Trust me.
You might be feeling down and feel like you will never get out of the hole you're in, but almost every situation gets better. Life will never be perfect, but time heals most things.
11. Asking others for help is not a bad thing
Being able to ask for help has taken me a long time to feel comfortable with. I used to think that asking for help made you weak, but now I know that life is hard and sometimes we can’t do it entirely on our own.
12. Significant others are great, but you do not need someone else to be happy
I have learned that being in a relationship can be wonderful if you're with the right person, but honestly, relationships are a lot of work and they aren't necessary for you to enjoy life. Don’t let anyone tell you that you do.
13. Buying a ton of new clothes or having material things does not equal happiness
It can cause temporary joy, but it does not make or break a person. Experiences are more valuable than materials.
14. Express your opinions whenever you get the chance
Sharing opinions and making your voice heard can go a long way. Nothing will ever change if nobody stands up for what they believe it.
15. A mistake does't define who you are
Everyone makes many, many mistakes in their lifetime. The mistake itself isn't what matters, but the way you recover from the mistake is what people will remember.
