What It's Like To Be An Empath

What It's Like To Be An Empath

"You feel too little, and I feel too much."

Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

To be an empath means to feel everything, to sacrifice your feelings for the sake of others, sometimes uncontrollably. Not many people carry this trait and it is a very rare quality to have. For someone that is very empathetic, I can attest that is a blessing and a curse.

Empathy can be a magical quality to have. The fact that you can actually feel what others feel (without them telling you) can really allow you to connect with everyone you come into contact with on an emotional level. It truly is beautiful. It allows you to see the good in people and you are able to pinpoint the people that matter.

Another cool thing about being empathetic, is that it's easy to find the fake people. You are a natural lie detector and are very good at reading people. This enables you to see past the people that only want something from you or are dishonest.

Although feeling emotions and sharing them with others is a great trait, it can also be exhausting. The fact that you feel everything from everyone is very mentally taxing. It can sometimes feel damn near impossible to get out of someone else's head and into your own. And even your own mind isn't necessarily a safe place to be at when you feel too much.

Sometimes you can get confused on whether or not the feelings are yours. Because of this, most people with great empathy are introverts or spend most of their time isolated. Being around people too much can release chaos within our own minds. It definitely takes a lot of practice to be able to decipher your own emotions compared with others, but it does get easier along with other side effects of being empathetic.

Along with confusion, it is nearly impossible to be around during tragic events, or even just listening about tragic events. The pain along with the trauma is too much to handle sometimes so you steer clear of watching the news too often. It can really mess you up.

Despite being able to connect with people being a good thing, it can also be a bad thing. Being able to understand people, or both sides of an argument, really leaves you as the neutral force in just about anything. But it also allows you to see every side, it allows you to feel and share emotions with everyone, even the "bad" people. You can understand the reasons of some actions even if they are bad. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just goes to show how vulnerable you can be having empathy.

But don't worry, in my books being someone who shows great amounts of empathy is a good thing. It takes a lot of strength and courage to get through most days, having to face every emotion from every person you meet. It also takes a lot to endure the more sensitive subjects and just to be sensitive.

These days it's hard to find people who actually care with all of their being about anything. We are the good in the world. We are the people that care the most and show it. So if you have this quality, don't be ashamed. To me, it's the best one to have.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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10 Ways To Keep Your Workout Motivation According To A Personal Trainer

"ALEXA play 'Work Bitch' by Britney Spears."


Keeping your motivation for working out is one of the number one reasons why I think people fail to achieve their fitness goals.

Now I am no "fitness guru" by any means, and I have lost my motivation many times and worked back up.

No one is perfect when it comes to working out, and everyone can have different methods that are successful but from what I have seen, and talking to a few personal trainers, these are some of the best ways to keep your motivation and not lose track of your goals.

If you stick to these 10 ways, you will definitely have a better mindset when it comes to working out, and that will help you push yourself hard because you know that you are capable of much more than you think!

That is the last piece of advice I will leave you with, you are so much more capable of than you think. I recall so many times in the gym, I've thought I was gonna just collapse or crumble cause I was so tired, but time and time again I persevere and finish a set, and see that I can really push myself to the limits, and this is when I've seen the best results.

1. Talk about your goals.

You have to speak your goals into existence. Also speaking about them to others can help hold you accountable and you are working so hard for them, don't give up and let what you accomplished so far go to waste!

2. Get a consistent workout buddy.

This is something that I have found helps me out a lot, my roommate Jordan and I are always checking in on each other to make sure that we've worked out!

3. Want better for yourself, not to impress someone else.

This is also very important, if you have fitness goals solely to impress someone else, you will never be satisfied, or never feel like enough.

4. Want it more than you say.

You really have to want your fitness goals more than you are saying. If you have this goal that is driving you constantly in the back of your mind, your motivation will keep coming from within.

5. Have a scheduled workout plan.

If you have a workout plan that a professional or yourself has constructed, it gives you something to follow and not break. Having a plan for yourself will help keep yourself on track.

6. Take pictures every week!

Seems cheesy, but taking photos of yourself every week can hold you accountable but more importantly, you are able to see results, big or small, if you aren't seeing them in person, you'll be able to tell through the photos.

7. Know what your plan is before you go to the gym.

You should know what your plan is before you go to the gym, try not to just wing it. If you are winging it, who knows if you are really pushing yourself and constantly challenging yourself every gym session.

8. Try your best to maintain a healthy diet during the week.

This can be difficult of course, meal prepping is someting that can always helps! BUT if you don't have time to meal prep, then just go to the grocery store and buy a bunch of healthy snacks to eat throughout the day to keep your motabalism working. Get foods to fuel your body so all your hard workouts don't go to waste!

9. Stick to a plan, it'll be hard at first, but it only gets easier.

Once you get into the swing of things, get into a routine, you'll get used to it. And then you will truly enjoy it, feel great, and have more energy!

10. Surround yourself with others that also have the same goals as you.

As cliche as it is, you do pick up the traits of the people you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with overachievers, hard workers, who have the same fitness goals as you, you'll all work hard together and encourage each other along the way!

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