You read that right; I have never had a boyfriend. I am a nineteen-year-old normal college freshman and I have never been in a relationship. I've actually only ever been on one date, so clearly I am very inexperienced with the whole dating and relationship world. Being the only friend who can't relate to the crazy ex-boyfriend talks or the messy breakups or the cute dates really sucks. It's like missing out on the Victoria's Secret 7 for $27 underwear sale.
It sucks to never get to join in with your friends and talk about an ex or a current boyfriend. You don't have any cute date stories or those pictures with your man that hits an all-time high on Instagram likes because it's so cute. When these conversations come up you turn into a bobble head, nodding along with whatever your friends who have a story or know what they're talking about when it comes to guys has to say.
Perhaps a bigger struggle than sitting out on a fun convo with your girlfriends is when a relative or friend asks you if you finally have a boyfriend. You reply with the casual 'no' only for them to say something along the lines of, "You're so pretty! I wonder why all the boys aren't trying to swoop you up! You want to respond with, "That's a question I'm still wondering what the answer to myself," but end up settling for a laugh and shrug of the shoulders. The last thing you want to do is have an in-depth conversation at a family gathering about the single life.
Despite those to major cons, you do have something else many people who have been in a relationship don't have and that is a whole heart. You've never given your heart to someone else and had them break it or still keep a piece of it even though the relationship has far since ended. You're free to walk around without the fear of seeing that one person with someone else. You're free to one day give a whole heart to a person you know will appreciate it.
Maybe the best pro is that you can focus all your energy on you and what you want to do. There's not another person you have to worry about fitting in a busy schedule. You don't have to worry about telling a friend 'no' or skipping out on a family time to see your boyfriend. Your world actually does revolve around you and what you like and most importantly, being the best version of you. You can grow and become who you want without doing it with someone who may be going in a different direction then you or influence you in any way. Your life and freedom are truly yours.
So does it suck being the girl who's never had a boyfriend? Yes, sometimes it does. But it sometimes is also a good thing. When you miss the Victoria's Secret 7 for $27 you miss the chance at some cute underwear for cheap, but you also miss being down $27. When you've never had a boyfriend you don't get the cute dates or Instagram pics but you also don't end up with a shattered heart, and that is enough to say that never having had a boyfriend is perfectly okay with me.
