Sorry, But Keeping A Trans Identity From Someone Is NOT Sexual Assault
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Sorry, But Keeping A Trans Identity From Someone Is NOT Sexual Assault

Sexual Assault cannot be redefined! Let's talk about what IS and ISN'T sexual assault.

Sorry, But Keeping A Trans Identity From Someone Is NOT Sexual Assault
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Sexual assault may be a touchy issue, but now is the time to go over a few things about sexual assault cases. Reading the article "How Accusing A Powerful Man of Rape Drove A College Student To Suicide," I have a few things to state.

I would also like my article to address a few points from the article "No, I Will Not Date You If You Are Trans." One article shows what an actual sexual assault case is and the other does not properly define sexual assault and what it is.

First, the not going to date you if you are trans article tackles sexual assault in a way that represents it inaccurately. Sexual assault cannot be claimed AFTER the acts have been followed through a day or so later. What is done is done.

A person can only claim sexual assault if they did not consent before and during the practice. You are basically saying that you can say you were sexually assaulted by someone that had AIDS or HIV after you had sex with them, but guess what!? You can't do that because you consented before and during the sexual act. The matter in which you want to state is that this is all about morals.

Yes, I agree that people should tell you what their gender is because, indeed, I agree that both people need to respect what gender(s) each other are into. But do not say that it is sexual assault because, frankly, you are making sexual assault sound like a joke. Personally, I don't like that because I was sexually assaulted and you can't redefine what sexual assault is. Not telling someone you have a STD is all based on morals and you can kind of put it that way for all the genders as well, instead of just telling them they are sexually assaulting people.

But let me also state that you do have to acknowledge that people are scared to tell and trust their partners with information like that. Sometimes subjects are hard for people to talk about and I am not saying what can be done and what has been done is okay, but we all know that some of us have some stories/information that we are scared to tell our partners or future partners. Personally, I have a hard time talking about things that bother me in a relationship because I am scared to make my partner upset or feel bad about themselves. But it is something that must be done and I believe that communication is key for everything. Don't be scared to tell people what you identify as, personal issues, insecurities, etc. You should be able to trust who you are looking to be with because it is the person you potentially will be with for the rest of your life.

Now onto the actual sexual assault case where consent was not given before and/or during the sexual act. College student, Megan Rondini, filed a sexual assault case and they all but told her that the rich man from Tuscaloosa, AL, couldn't be touched. They took an older, rich man's side over a college student, which to some may seem rational, but Megan escaped (through a window) as soon as Bunn fell asleep and immediately went to the hospital and reported the assault to the police. Most sexual assault cases are hard to prove since most cases don't have witnesses, but her case was pushed aside because she did not physically "fight back". I want to send my condolences to her family, because when I was assaulted I did not fight back either. My mind drew a blank and I froze in terror. I was hesitant to report, but my case was slightly different. Not all females or males have the ability to fight back. Sometimes when people get scared, they freeze up and fighting back isn't as easy as it sounds. I am thankful that Jacksonville State University did everything in their power to help me with my case and guide me during the time that followed through counseling. I hope that every college/university will start working on how to handle sexual assault cases.

Sexual assault is not something you can define for yourself like some people like to do. Claiming sexual assault after the event is over is regret, not assault. Sorry, not sorry. Sexual assault is not giving consent to an action before and during the time of the event.

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