Most of us start off as naive beings who continuously give, without expecting anything in return--or knowing that the other will recognize our efforts and reciprocate. After countless experiences, we start getting exhausted.
It becomes the same old routine. You wake up, go above and beyond for someone, yet they still belittle you or easily leave. They might not think much of it but as soon as they act this way, they break a little bit of the "trust" section in your heart.
My parents raised me to believe that no one out there is actually there for me and that no one will ever give me the same amount of love and trust I give to them. And of course, this seemed so unrealistic and untrue--how can human beings like me not respect the effort and care I put into the relationships I have with them?
Little by little, we lose trust to a point where the word "trust" itself becomes a myth. You start distrusting people from the very start; you don't even give them a chance to prove you wrong because you're so hurt and broken.
To most, this might be a smart move. Distrusting people from the start might be able to save us from more emotional damage in the future. However, it's not as simple and straightforward as that.
1. People won't stay
What's the point of staying in someone's life if they can't offer the basics, which includes trust...at least a little bit? No matter how hard they try, you aren't giving them a chance to change your mind or teach you something different. To them, you might become a toxic person who is capable of changing their optimistic mindset too.
2. No one will trust you
If you're not able to slowly grow and recover from past experiences, you're not giving yourself a chance to find some type of happiness again in your life. Since you don't trust anyone even a teensy bit, no one will try to trust you either.
3. Everything becomes a battle
Distrust is capable of changing our perspective on every aspect of life. From school to performing simple tasks like helping your neighbor becomes a challenge.
