We've all been there. We've all fallen for a guy that took a piece of our heart and never gave it back.
But here's something all of us girls need to hear: you deserve better. I know it seems so cliche but understanding that will help you get over him. If he didn't make you feel like you were the most beautiful girl in the world, made you laugh, and loved you like Jesus loves you, then he's not the one. It's hard to except it and move on and it's okay to not be okay for a while. If you feel like you need to cry, then cry. If you feel like you need to punch something, take a boxing class. But after a while, we have to realize it was his loss and here's how we do it. Growing up my mom always taught me to never let a guy see you sweat. Don't let him know you're upset, don't post sad pinterest quotes, and don't beg for him back. Start off by realizing you're a boss and you are so beautiful. Start doing things that better you as a person. I can promise you going out and getting drunk is only a temporary fix. Getting under someone to get over someone ain't the solution either. Go have a girls night where it's just you and your girls having fun and laughing until it hurts. Decide to start eating healthier and working out. Working out increases your self-confidence and builds self-esteem. It's so important to build that self-confidence back up after a break-up. You have to remember what it's like to love yourself without anyone's help. Often times, that's the hardest part because we relied on someone else to make us feel beautiful and loved and now we're stuck by ourselves figuring out what went wrong and why he left. I always remind myself of Psalm 139:14, "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.." God created you in His image and designed you exactly how He wanted you to be. It all takes time, but in the end it will be worth it. You'll meet the guy who God created for you and he'll make you forget about the guys who broke your heart.
One Sunday at church, my pastor encouraged us to start a prayer journal for our future spouses. I went home and wrote my first letter to my future husband that day. It's a little weird at first because you might be writing to someone you've never even met before, but then you get this overwhelming feeling of joy. It's an incredible feeling to be praying for someone that one day will read those letters on your wedding day. I try and write my future hubby a letter once a month and list the things that I'm praying for. I recommend doing this because it also helps you move on. It makes you realize that there's someone out there that is designed to be with you and the guy who just broke your heart isn't the one.
Moral of the story is to be a better you for YOU. Not for him, not for your friends, but so you can say I'm done letting him take away my happiness that I deserve. Once a guy realizes how well you're doing without him, 9/10 times they ALWAYS come back. They try to slide back in and send the "i miss you" text. The powerful and beautiful girl that you've been working on becoming will have the strength to ignore his text and realize you still deserve the best.
So here's to creating a new you that makes him realize he made the biggest mistake of his life.
xo
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