What do you do when words fail? What do you do when you don't know what to say to someone who is clearly hurting? What do you say to the friend who recently had their heart broken? What do you say to someone that has just lost a loved one? What do you do when words fail?
Regardless of how qualified you think you are to help people with whatever they're going through, sometimes words just aren't enough. Sometimes words can't heal the pain. So what do you do when the word you want to say won't provide the comfort that's needed?
Take action in simple ways. There's no need to be extravagant when in reality most people can be comforted by the little things. By little things I mean take some time to figure out what their favorite things are. More often than not someone's favorite things can bring them the most comfort. If you need ideas on things you can do for someone who is hurting here are a couple:
1. Bring someone a cup of their favorite tea or coffee.
There's nothing more comforting than my favorite cup of tea when I'm not feeling 100%. The calming affects of tea can help calm someone down when they're upset while a good cup of coffee can give someone a boost when they're feeling low.
2. Write them a letter.
Sometimes the words you want to say to someone that's hurting don't come out right. A handwritten heartfelt letter is a great way to let someone know that you're there for them. Not only will it show them that you care enough to take the time to write them a letter but it will be a constant reminder that you're there for them when they are ready to ask for help. They will be able to keep the letter to read whenever they are feeling down or are having a hard time; it's a reminder for them that you care.
3. Give them space.
You can only check up on someone so many times. Sometimes giving someone space and alone time is exactly what they need. Leave them alone for a couple days so that they can process and reflect on what's going on. Give them time and space to get back onto their feet and then be there for them once they've gotten their footing back.
So while words may not be able to heal open wounds all the time, actions can. Take the time to go out of your way and bring someone the comfort that they may need. Take the time to help someone else heal by taking action and not just using words.
