What Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte Really Taught Me

What Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte Really Taught Me

"Sex and the City's" leading ladies have given me a lot more than an appreciation for good drinks and good friends.

"Sex and the City" is a funny, refreshing, and (at times) scandalous, but all-around fantastic series following four best friends through their lives as single, 30-something women in New York City. After watching too many reruns on HBO over the years, I decided it was time to start with season one and make my way through. And while I've found myself with this extreme void in my life, after finishing season six this past week, I have realized that I actually learned a lot more from the four featured divas than just some bad sex stories, justification for spending a small fortune on a pair of strappy sandals or appreciation for the perfect cosmopolitan.

1. Carrie Bradshaw

Its hard not to envy the fantastic lifestyle of the show's leading lady. From her brilliant taste in Manolo Blahniks, ability to attract some of Manhattan's most eligible bachelors and her bold, and seemingly fearless, ways of sharing the ups and downs of her love life in her brilliantly crafted column "Sex and the City," we all seem to get the impression that Carrie has it all. But, like every woman, Carrie has her weaknesses: a mixture of Marlborough Lights and the heartthrob Mr. Big. It's hard not to want to shake your TV screen every time she goes crawling back to the man who just can't seem to commit, and for good reason. It's like watching your best friend make the same mistake twice with a guy you warned her was nothing but trouble.

But through all six seasons of the "he loves me, he loves me nots" with Mr. Big, I cannot help but admire Carrie for her ability to follow her heart, free of any inhibitions. She tells it like it is, no matter how passionate, desperate or crazy it may sound, wearing her heart directly on her sleeve. Even when her life seems to have finally found balance (in the form of the hunky furniture man Aiden and their future joint apartment), she is able to admit to herself that something just isn't right and, with or without the promise of a future with Big, ends a seemingly perfect relationship in the hopes of a love that will never leave her doubting. It may backfire on her more than a few times, but it is a characteristic I would think many women wish they could emulate. For me, Carrie represents a willingness to be more expressive, and thus more vulnerable in the quest to find exactly what it is that will one day leave us irrefutably happy.

2. Miranda Hobbes

Miranda is underrated and one of my favorite characters in the show. She is successful, driven, funny, a loyal friend and, more often than not, lacks a serious filter. She always seems to take issue with something about a man with potential; she has high standards and sticks to them. Admirable, yes. A slight character flaw, absolutely. It is almost impossible not to fall in love with Steve, the geeky-cute bartender Miranda brings home one night who, despite her best judgment, actually develops some pretty serious feelings for her. Their plot line never seems to end — even when they have baby Brady. Steve just isn't "the one"... until she finally allows herself to admit that maybe, he is just that.

I think I love Miranda's character because I see so much of myself in her (and yes, I have taken the "Which Sex in the City Character are you?" quiz and gotten her every time). She can never fully commit to a guy as her vision of what love is supposed to look like is so strong, it makes everyone seem not good enough. She is driven, but unbelievably stubborn, and it takes her a long time to figure out that maybe what she is looking for is right in front of her. I, for one, can learn a great deal from Miranda, mainly that sometimes we just have to let go of our idea of perfection and accept something that may look exactly opposite of what we pictured, but is even more perfect than we could have aspired for.

3. Samantha Jones

The slightly promiscuous, confident and sassy best friend that everyone loves to hate. At first, Samantha seems to be your quintessential party girl, never without a few crazy stories from last week's hook-ups and little to no inhibition in sharing every detail of her sex life with just about anyone. She can come across as "too much" to many and often drives Princess Charlotte crazy with her theories on love and commitment (or lack there of). And while all of this may be true, there is a lot more to Samantha than that. She tends to shy away from any sort of commitment when it comes to men, a quality that drove me crazy watching model Smith Jared try and win her over almost completely unrequited, but understandable when you consider why she is so guarded. She seems to fear vulnerability — the result of an incredible sense of independence — as she refuses to accept anything that compromises her idea of what she deserves.

I wouldn't necessarily recommend we try and learn something valuable from Samantha's dating history, but we can sure take a lot from how she ends up. Her unrelenting sense of self and need to remain independent in a society where women can too easily become dependent on a man is something I truly admire.

Charlotte York

The elegant, loving, naive and beautiful woman that holds the group together. She is perfect in every sense of the word; the modern-day Elizabeth Taylor. Charlotte is hard not to love, but also hard not to want to smack some sense into. She is an absolute believer in love and refuses to allow any situation (or man) to prove her otherwise. This adolescent take on love quickly leads Charlotte into a seemingly perfect relationship with handsome Trey McDougal — Charlotte's dream man on paper, but a man with some serious hidden flaws. Needless to say, the fairy tale love affair Charlotte hopes for falls to pieces and leads her along a pretty dismal path trying to find love again.

I admire Charlotte for her ability to never falter in her belief that true love does exist, even through the heartache she feels realizing that in her life with Trey, it didn't. She never seems to stop believing that her Prince Charming will come along and prove to her that her heartache was well worth it. And after finally finding an even more perfect love in the surprising comfort of Mr. Harry Goldenblatt, she continues to show just how important finding — and keeping — love is to her, converting to Judaism for the real man of her dreams. Most women these days would tell her she is crazy, but I cannot help but agree with her. Everyone needs something to believe in — whether it's love or faith or destiny — and she is a great example of how we must never stop believing, even when the goal seems lost.

To all the haters out there who think "Sex and the City" is just another '90s HBO series that tried desperately in its day to be the next big hit — you are wrong. Yes, the show is filled with some pretty surface-level plot lines and, as the title would suggest, a decent amount of sex, but there's a lot more to it than that. It's an honest story about four great friends, too many not-so-great men and a common understanding that with a cosmopolitan in hand, and in the company of one another, anything is possible.

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35 Major Life Facts According To Nick Miller

"All booze is good booze, unless it's weak booze."

Fact: If you watch "New Girl," you love Nick Miller.

You can't help it. He's an adorable, lovable mess of a man and you look forward to seeing him and his shenanigans each week. While living the infamous and incomparable life of Nick Miller, and obviously Julius Pepperwood— he has learned many valuable laws of the land. And, although Nick refuses to learn anything from anyone besides his mysterious, old Asian friend Tran, he does have a few lessons he'd like to teach us.

Here are 35 facts of life according to 'Nick Milla Nick Milla':

1. Drinking keeps you healthy.

"I'm not gonna get sick. No germ can live in a body that is 65% beer."

2. Dinosaurs never existed.

"I don't believe dinosaurs existed. I've seen the science. I don't believe it."

3. A paper bag is a bank.

"A bank is just a paper bag but with fancier walls."

4. Having sex is similar to delivering mail.

"I'm like a mailman, except instead of mail it's hot sex that I deliver."

5. Moonwalking is a foolproof way to get out of any awkward situation.

Jess (about Nick): "Now he won't even talk to me. I saw him this morning and he just panic moonwalked away from me. He does that sometimes."

6. Using a movie reference is also a great way.

Cece: "Come on, get up!"

Nick: "No, I don't dance. I'm from that town in "Footloose."

7. There's no reason to wash towels.

Nick: "I don’t wash the towel. The towel washes me. Who washes a towel?"

Schmidt: "You never wash your towel?"

Nick: "What am I gonna do? Wash the shower next? Wash a bar of soap?"

8. Exes are meant to be avoided at all costs (especially if/unless they're Caroline)

"I don't deal with exes, they're part of the past. You burn them swiftly and you give their ashes to Poseidon."

9. IKEA furniture is not as intimidating as it looks.

"I'm building you the dresser. I love this stuff. It's like high-stakes LEGOs."

10. You don't need forks if you have hands.

Jess: "That's gross. Get a fork, man."

Nick: "I got two perfectly good forks at the end of my arms!"

11. Sex has a very specific definition.

"It's not sex until you put the straw in the coconut."

12. Doors are frustrating.

"I will push if I want to push! Come on! I hate doors!"

13. All booze is good booze.

"Can I get an alcohol?"

14. ...unless it's weak booze.

"Schmidt, that is melon flavored liquor! That is 4-proof! That is safe to drink while you're pregnant!"

15. Writers are like pregnant women.

Jess: "You know what that sound is? It's the sound of an empty uterus."

Nick: "I can top that easily. I'm having a hard time with my zombie novel."

Jess: "Are you really comparing a zombie novel to my ability to create life?"

Nick: "I'm a writer, Jess. We create life."

16. All bets must be honored.

"There is something serious I have to tell you about the future. The name of my first-born child needs to be Reginald VelJohnson. I lost a bet to Schmidt."

17. Adele's voice is like a combination of Fergie and Jesus.

"Adele is amazing."

18. Beyoncé is extremely trustworthy.

"I'd trust Beyoncé with my life. We be all night."

19. Fish, on the other hand, are not.

“Absolutely not. You know I don’t trust fish! They breathe water. That's crazy!"

20. Bar mitzvahs are terrifying.

Schmidt: "It's a bar mitzvah!"

Nick: "I am NOT watching a kid get circumcised!"

21. ...so are blueberries.

Jess: "So far, Nick Miller's list of fears is sharks, tap water, real relationships..."

Nick: "And blueberries."

22. Take your time with difficult decisions. Don't be rash.

Jess: "You care about your burritos more than my children, Nick?"

Nick: "You're putting me in a tough spot!"

23. Getting into shape is not easy.

"I mean, I’m not doing squats or anything. I’m trying to eat less donuts."

24. We aren't meant to talk about our feelings.

"If we needed to talk about feelings, they would be called talkings."

25. We're all a little bit too hard on ourselves.

"The enemy is the inner me."

26. Freezing your underwear is a good way to cool off.

"Trust me, I'm wearing frozen underpants right now and I feel amazing. I'm gonna grab some old underpants and put a pair into the freezer for each of you."

27. Public nudity is normal.

"Everbody has been flashed countless times."

28. Alcohol is a cure-all.

"You treat an outside wound with rubbing alcohol. You treat an inside wound with drinking alcohol."

29. Horses are aliens.

"I believe horses are from outer-space."

30. Turtles should actually be called 'shell-beavers.'

Jess: "He calls turtles 'shell-beavers."

Nick: "Well, that's what they should be called."

31. Trench coats are hot.

"This coat has clean lines and pockets that don't quit, and it has room for your hips. And, when I wear it, I feel hot to trot!"

32. Sparkles are too.

"Now, my final bit of advice, and don't get sensitive on this, but you've got to change that top it's terrible and you've got to throw sparkles on. Sparkles are in. SPARKLES ARE IN."

33. Introspection can lead to a deeper knowing of oneself.

"I'm not convinced I know how to read. I've just memorized a lot of words."

34. It's important to live in the moment.

"I know this isn't gonna end well but the middle part is gonna be awesome."

35. Drinking makes you cooler.

Jess: "Drinking to be cool, Nick? That's not a real thing."

Nick: "That's the only thing in the world I know to be true."

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The Zodiac Signs As Bath And Body Works Scents

Just in case you want to know what scent you are!

Bath and Body Works fans could be considered to be part of a cult. The scents draw you in as if calling your name, if you ever
wondered what your scent should be based on your zodiac sign, here it is!

Aries: Country Apple

The rather impulsive Aries takes their time picking and choosing the scents from Bath and Body Works. The soothing scent of a fresh apple orchard is just what they need on a daily basis to keep up with their shenanigans.

Taurus: Japanese Cherry Blossom

The personality of a Taurus is stubborn, or what I like to say, is stuck in their ways. When they first discovered this scent in middle school, this was it. This is the only scent you will find anywhere around a Taurus.

Libra: Pink Chiffon

Pink Chiffon is another cult classic. This best selling scent went out of style for a hot second but is back and bigger than ever.

Leo: Thousand Wishes

Thousand Wishes is a purr-fect scent for a Leo. The light scent adornes the wearer just the right amount to get the desired reaction from those around them.

Aquarius: Be Enchanted

The rather cold personality of an Aquarius is counteracted by the loving scent of Be Enchanted. The scent is just enough tenderness for the wearer to be relaxed.

Gemini: Moonlight Path

Gemini's constantly change their favorite scent and are in and out of the store almost weekly to by new lotions, candles, and body washes. You will never see a full empty bottle of anything, however, Moonlight Path is the scent they keep coming back to again and again.

Virgo: Sea Island Cotton

The clean personality of a Virgo must be matched with the clean scent of Sea Island Cotton.

Capricorn: Cucumber Melon

Another clean scent of Cucumber Melon is the exact thing a Capricorn needs. The balance and calming scents are what make this scent so attractive to a Capricorn.

Scorpio: Paris Amour

The light scent is what you would expect from an extreme sign like a Scorpio. The scent lightly washes over the wearer in almost a cloud that

Sagittarius: Cashmere Glow

Cashmere Glow is a perfect scent for the winter sign. The vanilla and golden peach scent is just the mixture that creates the perfect accessory in the chilly months.

Pisces: Warm Vanilla Sugar

This lovely scent accentuates the lovely personality of a Pisces. They can never get enough of this scent so they just keep buying and buying until they have a full stockpile.

Cancer: Velvet Sugar

Velvet Sugar is the perfect blend of red velvet and strawberries and a Cancer is always changing their mind. The wearer can tell if it is a more red velvet or strawberry kind of day, and that is the balance that they need in their lives.

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