Cheating is something that I'll never be able to wrap my head around. I just can't comprehend how someone could blatantly lie and hide so much from someone they claim to care so much about and to everybody else in their lives.
It's a feeling that forces you to search every corner and every crevice of your mind to try and figure out why and how any of it could have happened.
You begin to question your trust not only in others, but also in yourself-- if you fully and completely put your trust in someone who ended up being the opposite of every single thing you believed them to be... how do you trust your judgment after that?
Many things in your life become extremely unclear and you even question your own self-worth -- you spend so long making a point of treating someone the very best that you can only to learn that while you were going out on a limb for them, they were going out on dates.
Learning that you've been cheated on, especially in what was a long relationship, definitely forces you to face a substantial amount of pain, but it also opens up an untold amount of doors to real, honest elation.
After you've been cheated on, you really learn the depth of "not everybody you lose is a loss."
You find yourself and grow in ways that you didn't even know were possible.
You have a lot of fights with yourself over why you weren't good enough for them, only to come out of those battles learning and truly knowing that a masterpiece in the dark is still a masterpiece. The darkness does not change its beauty nor it's worth-- just because that person didn't appreciate or respect you, doesn't make you any less of a masterpiece.
You meet a whole lot of new people and all of the engaging relationships that come out of meeting those people will surprise you in the most enchanting way.
You'll realize how much you were missing while you were being blindly and blatantly neglected.
And you'll then find yourself taking chances to see and appreciate all of what you were missing because you now have so much to see and do.
You eventually learn that all of the lies were not your fault-- they are completely and totally all on them.
Also that it is not your problem-- you were/are not the one in the place of deceit and destruction.
You realize that after everything has been unveiled, your life changes forever and it's your choice to decide what to do next.
You have to put your energy and love into yourself, but also never stop loving those in your life who show love to you-- do not let the deception make you bitter.
Take the pain and turn it into something better.
And do it because you can and because you deserve to be on the top of your own mountain.
There really is no such thing as "too busy." You can definitely make time for the people that you care for.
You'll also become painfully aware that not everybody is honest...no matter how many times they look you in the eye and promise you up and down that they would never lie.
Also that some people are beautifully honest and true and you should never hesitate in appreciating them and being grateful.
Always be grateful.
This will be one of the biggest lessons of your life and you now have the motivation to be the best you, whether it's uncovered yet or not, it's there- put it to good use.
And oh my god... you will finally once again learn how good it will feel/feels when you're treated well and right.
Being half loved is no way to be treated- do not tolerate it.
Never stop doing your best just because someone doesn't give you credit- but remember to NEVER LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL UNIMPORTANT. If anyone makes you feel unimportant, don't put your energy into them.
The world is too big and too full of life, beauty, and adventure for you to ever settle for anything that makes you feel small and unappreciated or afraid to open up.
Being cheated on opens up an entirely new world to you, and it may seem dark and chaotic at first, but don't worry-- soon you'll see light in life that's brighter than the sun.
You may have been robbed of some part of your life, but now you are free to start again and come up better and stronger than ever.
"It takes grace to remain kind in cruel situations," but make point of doing exactly that.
Do it for you.
Make the rest of your life the best of your life because you didn't come this far to only come this far.
