My thoughts on Valentine's day is simple, it's really really lame, and I think an excuse to spend money when we may not have if it wasn't for the holiday. I don't think spending money just for the day isn't necessarily worth it. I totally get the idea of the day and it's background and how we got to this point, and even with that I just truly don't care. It's not for bad experiences with the day at all really and I haven't messed up Valentine's day either, so my rather negative view on said holiday has been handcrafted with some reasonable thought process and a little bit of stubbornness thrown in there.
My big reason as why I don't think Valentine's day is really a big deal is that what is usually happening around Valentine's day, the gift giving, the dates, and even the sex (yes, what some of us put the work in for at the end of the night), should all be happening throughout the year also not just on a specific date. Granted for some busy bees I suppose can have that exception so they have that one excuse to everyone as to why they stopped their work for a second, but otherwise the love should always flow with your significant other. There's the common warning we get from our elders that the love kind of shrinks as the time together is spent more often and then marriage happens and "oh my lord", but I still think the effort can be made. I've seen it with my own two eyes that love as strong as it was when it was first felt still after so many years of marriage.
I also think that it puts a lot of pressure to get people something just because. For example, I consider Valentines Day to be for a significant other or a crush, while some others insist on me buying for my family. Which makes sense in the "love" aspect of the holiday, but it doesn't line with what Valentines has meant for me growing up or how I look at it now. I love my mom and I love my family, but they aren't my Valentine. So part of my look on has come from being put up with that.
I've also been told that I should get used to the idea of buying girls stuff or doing something on that day because its expected and you won't keep a girl because of it, and that's dreadful dreadful joke. I know it's for the laughs from most people, but others have told me that as true from the heart "advice" and I can't do anything but laugh. Most likely I won't do anything crazy for Valentine's day unless it's the reason explained earlier on in the article. I know I'd make such a terrible boyfriend, but if it seems to my significant other that I need to do something on this day rather than appreciating the multiple other things I've done and plan to do than shutting them down is easy with a few words. I don't need a day to tell me exaclty when to buy and love my S.O.
I should be doing that all throughout the year. Every date should feel like Valentine's day.
