If you had asked me before, I would have told you that fairytales didn't exist. I stopped believing in "love" after a series of unfortunate events in my life. I watched the toll a nasty divorce took on one of my parents. I later allowed myself to believe that I fell in love with a boy. I spent much of my high school career in a relationship that did nothing but further the death of my fantasies that had previously been generated from a little too much time spent watching Walt Disney's creations. However, this article is not being written to tell you my life story, but to share a lesson that I have learned recently:
Love has no definition. There is no concept that you must live up to.
I hate that love was ever seen as a form of discrimination. Whether it's race, gender, or any other form of discrimination that you can think of in your little brain, think about the effect that it will have on you.
That's right, it won't. Everyone has the right to finding their Cinderella story, even if it's not written the same way. I don't believe anyone has the right to look at another relationship as inferior to their own based on details. Every love story is its own, and no two love stories are the same.
So, next time you go to #relationshipgoals, remember that not everyone's relationship goals are the same. Some girls don't fantasize about getting presents the way the current social media world portrays it, some of us would rather a good cuddle sesh. Some girls don't even fantasize about relationships at all.
Speaking of #myrelationshipgoals...
I have recently learned to love again. Yes, I know, this seems to interject everything that I had said before. But that is the point of this article; without a set definition of love you can bend the rules. I took the experiences that I feared before and turned them into lessons. To me, my boyfriend and I are my relationship goals. To me, he is one of the most amazing human beings and allows me to feel as if I am living out my own fantasy. But I do realize that it would not be the same for everyone else. I created my own definition of a beautiful concept by looking at my past and feelings and realizing that I, as an individual, have the right to love in the ways I see fit. This is so important.
Everyone must realize that as individual people in a world of differences we all have the right to love differently. Whether your prince(ss) is of the opposite sex, the same sex or you feel you're doing better on your own, it is a place for someone to have judgements.
I am young still. Whether my current love story is my last and final one, or another stepping stool that will lead to new lessons is not important. It is important to remember your past, look forward to your future, but mostly to live in your present.
No matter if your prince(ss) is not what others would picture for you.
Always remember that no love story is perfect to everyone, but to find the one perfect for you.
