It’s easier to walk away from someone than to stay and love them. It’s easier to keep your feelings to yourself and not let people in. That way you don’t have anyone to worry about but yourself. You don’t have to worry about what another person wants. You don’t need to worry about maybe letting the other person down. You don’t have to hold yourself to higher standard. You can say what you want and act like you want with whoever you want. And as perfect as that might sound—you might get lonely or you might wonder what could happen with someone that you meet. You might even start to catch feelings for someone *gasp* then what? Then you must immediately remove yourself from that situation because if those feelings grow then you will be exactly where you are trying to avoid.
But my main question is, why are these feelings so bad? Why is it so terrible that someone might make you happy even for a short period of time? The issue is that everyone always assumes that things will end—and most of the time that they will, but because of this people don’t want to try. They don’t want to put themselves out there. But it’s funny that people want to wait until they find something or someone worth it but you won’t find that if you don’t put yourself out there.
How do you know if something is right or not without trying? People always try to put up walls and make excuses because they think that it will keep them safe and keep them out of trouble and keep them from getting hurt, and speaking from someone who has been hurt a fair number of times the last one is very important I know.
We want to make sure that we don’t get hurt more than we need to and that is understandable—the feeling of being hurt is obviously not good and no one really strives to feel like that. But the truth is that you’re going to be hurt and it will be more than once—that’s inevitable, but the thing that you get a say in is who you let hurt you. You have to decide who you can let in and who is going to hurt you the least—who is going to be worth the pain that you are going to feel. Who is going to make you forget about the bad times and focus on the good? Who is going to go on fun adventures and bring out the best in you? Who is going to make you want to be the best person that you can be without even trying? Once you figure that out, you hope that the person that you want to let in wants to let you in too.
Chemistry is easy, its timing that’s the issue. Sometimes if you were to find the person that you wanted to let in six months sooner or six months later everything could be different. But then you are in the same boat that you started in—putting up walls because it might not be the right time or the right moment etc. etc. What I am saying is that at the end of the day, you don’t know what is going to happen. You don’t know if you are doing the right thing or not. You don’t know if this is going to help or hurt your situation, but if it feels right then you should go for it.
You have to put yourself out there and see where it takes you.
