There are tons of different articles on this topic. Simply by my title alone, you already know what this article is going to be about.

That's right: sex before marriage and why I'm waiting until marriage to have sex.

I've always prided myself on being a little old fashioned in things. I like the idea of walking girls back to their cars, dorms, houses, etc. I like the idea of going on dates that involve actually having fun with someone, and not your typical movie date or dinner date. Don't get me wrong, I love those dates as well, but variety is the spice of life. I like making things unique and playing off of already existing ideas. For instance, instead of a dinner date, why not spruce things up, grab an old blanket, and have a picnic date for dinner? In all reality, how often is this the normal kind of date?

So in that same sense, I like to be unique and old fashioned in dating, which comes a big statement: Instead of indulging in each other's bodies, why not wait until marriage to do so? Notice my choice of words there: "indulging in each other's bodies." You see, that phrase implies that there isn't much more substance to the idea of premarital sex other than the fact that it's for enjoyment. Honestly, that tends to be what premarital sex comes down to.

Now, I'm a Christian. I believe in keeping the marriage bed holy, and that includes not defiling it by having sex with someone before I marry them. You may have heard a phrase like this before, but how would you feel if someone had sex with your girlfriend/boyfriend? In the same way, when you marry someone, how would you feel if someone had been with that person before you guys got married? A majority of you are probably thinking, "well I probably wouldn't like it." Then again, some of you might be thinking, "I honestly wouldn't care. I didn't know them at that point. It would be different if we were married/together now and they did that. But I can't hold what they did in the past against them." I agree with the last statement. You shouldn't hold anyone's past against them, because we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). If God has forgiven someone who repents, you should do your best to do the same. But in that last scenario, I mentioned how some of you are probably thinking that you wouldn't care. And THAT is what I want to get at.

Sex in today's world is generally thought of a simple pleasure and nothing more. Just like old fashioned/fun dates, it has lost its meaning. What does it really mean to have sex with someone? It means that that is the one person you are willing to be that intimate with. If you give in and have sex with multiple partners before you marry someone, what does sex even mean anymore? What are you left with? Is it still just another fun activity to do with your new spouse? How is it any different from what you were doing before? How is it special?

It's not at that point. The intimacy of it is gone, because you gave that up when you decided to do it with other partners before your spouse.

In my mind, if I were to give in to premarital sex, it is like I'm cheating on my future wife by giving away the original intimacy that was meant for her.

Now there is probably a third group of people reading this. The group that feels that they have found their future wife/husband. Maybe you're even engaged to said person. Why shoud you have to wait until marriage when you already know you love this person and that this is the person you want to marry and probably will marry soon. What's the difference in waiting?

Because God asked us to.

Think of it this way:

It's Christmas Eve. Your parents saved up a lot of money to buy you one expensive but meaningful present. Maybe it's your first car? They might've even let you pick it out of the car lot. You definitely know that you're getting a car and know everything about it. Why not just ask your parents for the keys now so you can take it out for a little test run? It's pretty much yours.

But, it's also the only gift you are getting. When Christmas Day rolls around and everyone else in your family is opening up gifts, you have nothing to open. How left out would you feel now, because you already opened your gift?

So yeah, the said person might as well be your spouse. But it's not final yet. If you give in now, what are you left with on your wedding day or whenever you guys so choose to be intimate with each other.

Your future spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, fiance is worth the wait. Keep the intimacy that belongs to them protected.

God bless!