Waiting Is Annoying, But Sometimes It's Necessary

Waiting Is Annoying, But Sometimes It's Necessary

I know you hate the wait, but what are you doing while you wait?

Waiting in any capacity is annoying. Some waiting causes excitement like on Christmas Eve when you are waiting for the next day to open your presents. Or if you know something big is about to happen then you might be excited anticipating it. Some waiting causes anxiety. Like if your waiting for the cast list to be posted. Or for an acceptance letter. Or for the something new to happen in your life. We as people spend a lot of time waiting for things. Most of the things are small, like your food to arrive at a restaurant or for a new episode to come on the following week. But other things can cause you to lose sleep or lose your sanity (only briefly).

Waiting for things does not have to be a bad thing. It does not have to be looked at as negative all the time. This goes especially for when you are waiting for your life to begin. When we are young we in vision life. We see older people's lives or see fictional people on TV and plan ours according to what we liked or disliked about what we observed. I know I did. I had a plan that by this age I would be doing this and by that age I would have something different. But life looks at your plans and goes, "Aww that's cute. You tried to have control over your life." There are certain things in life you can't change or control, like the actions and feelings of other people, and those things influence what happens in your life. These things can delay your plans or even cause them to change. And then you are left waiting for the things you thought you would have by now to happen.

Maybe you thought you'd be in a relationship but that special person hasn't shown up yet. Maybe you thought you'd have a career but your opportunity hasn't presented itself yet. But just because you have to wait a little longer than others doesn't mean it's not going to happen at all. Waiting does not mean you aren't supposed to achieve your goals or that you are forced to stay exactly where you are. There can be a number of reasons why you don't have what you want yet. Maybe in your waiting, you aren't working towards it. Maybe you think it will just fall into your lap. That's not going to work. Or maybe you are not at a place in your life where you are ready for it. Maybe you need sometime to grow and mature so that when you get what you want you can handle it.

So sometimes waiting can be a good thing. It can prepare you and make you fully equipped to take on what you want, but you have to make sure that while you are waiting you do your part. Don't just sit on your couch and dream about a better life without doing anything about it. Sometimes being proactive can help to jump start the thing you've been waiting on to come into fruition. If you want to start dating, you can't stay in your house and wish up a boy/girlfriend. You have to go outside and meet people. You have to make yourself available and be open to new experiences.

If you want to live in a big house one day, you have to be serious about your career. The people with the big houses and fancy cars didn't wake up one day and have those things. Yes there are some people who are rich/famous for no reason at all (*coughs Kardashians*) but for most of the people who have nice things had to work really hard for those things. Plus hard work helps make you look at your accomplishments differently. You're more likely to value what you had to work for instead of the things you were handed.

So yeah, waiting it annoying and can be anxiety inducing but not all waiting is created equal. Some of it is good and will help you in the long run. So while you wait, focus on your goal and do everything in your power to help it to become your reality. That way your waiting will not have been in vain and when you get it you can appreciate it fully.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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To The High School Senior Wishing She Could Fast-Forward To Graduation, Careful What You Wish For

Don't wish this time away.


As the last stretch of my freshman year of college stands before me, I've been thinking a lot about where I was a year ago today. I've thought about how fast the time has gone, but also how much has happened in that year.

A year ago, I decided what college I was going to and was getting ready to graduate, and honestly counting down the days until graduation. Senior year was almost over, and I couldn't wait to walk across that stage, get my diploma, and FINALLY get to start my real life. However, now that it's a year later I honestly barely remember all those little moments and it feels like literally a world ago when I was in my high school and making my Senior Board full of pictures of my childhood. And part of me wishes that I hadn't wished all that time away.

So, to my high school seniors out there — I encourage you to cherish all the memories you are making. I encourage you to spend time with your parents and savor the meals you have with them and enjoy the conversations where your mom asks all the mom questions about your day, and your dad tells a story from his childhood that you've heard a million times before. I encourage you to appreciate the friends you have, and whether or not you plan to stay friends with them after graduation, be grateful for the time with them in this season and the role that they played in your life.

I ask you to look around your high school, stop and stare at the walls that you've probably been praying to get out of for a few months now and appreciate the memories and times you've had in those buildings. Whether or not high school was a great time for you or a bad time, it was a time of growth and the place where you matured and made mistakes and succeeded.

Seniors, enjoy these last few months because before you know it you'll blink and it will be a year later and you'll be miss those days that you complained about, those teachers you rolled your eyes at, and those friends that you shared that time with.

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