So I don't really want to get deep into the matter, but I have no choice. Can we PLEASE talk about relationships? Usually it's women that write about these issues, but I feel like it's time that it comes from a guy. I'll start off by putting it lightly: waiting for the right girl is really hard. Some guys may have already found Mrs. Right, so this goes out to all you single guys out there: keep on waiting, because God's got something in store for you. How cliche is that? Very, but it's so true.

Some guys (like myself) feel sometimes like we get screwed over by our singleness. Every time we turn around, we see the not-so-mr.nice guys of the world hitting it off hard while we are just sitting in the corner wondering, "Whens it my time? Why is it so hard to for me to find someone?" It's tough when we feel like we're due for a relationship, especially when we've felt rejection so many times. But theres also an old saying that goes, "Good things come to those who wait." So does that mean we sit around waiting for her to come into our life? Yes and no.

Whether we like it or not, God's got an interesting plan thats different for us, even when we think we could see ourselves with someone or want something so much. Just as we plan, God laughs. So the solution is simple: stay the course. Do we just sit around waiting for her? No, because we have to actively get to know a girl before we can determine what we like in one. But we also know that there will be that one that just shows up in our life when we least expect it. So yes, sometimes we do need to wait for her. But you already knew that, didn't you?

Or what about if you maybe feel as though you've already found someone really special, but those feelings just haven't come to fruition yet? Maybe she doesn't know your interested, or maybe she's just avoiding it at all costs. Maybe she's been hurt before, and she "doesn't want a relationship" (isn't that the classic one). Maybe she doesn't feel like putting herself out there again to "get hurt in the end" or "lose trust". Which is completely understandable (believe me my lady readers, this isn't to disregard your feelings), but at the same time, you know deep down you want to show them the affection they never thought they could find in a man. They just can't see it, and it's frustrating! But see, that's what separates the good guys from the bad guys. In the end, the bad guys will always look for the wrong things in a relationship with a girl. Often times, these guys can hurt a girl. It hurts her, absolutely, and it also ruins it for the good men: the men that would never even think to do such a thing. Here's the thing, though: the good men will always wait. The good men will always put the Lord first and follow the path-less-traveled. The good men will always recognize when to make a move and when not to. The good men will always be willing to do whatever it takes to show that special lady that she deserves so much more than she's gotten. Yeah, it may take forever for her to realize that you are that one she's been searching for, but it will happen. Stay the course, men. Don't give in to lust, foolishness, or sexual immorality. That's just not how the good guys role.

If nothing else, embrace your singleness for the time being! Have fun! The good guys know how to live life to the fullest, so embrace being the good guy. Embrace the fact that your the outsider thats waiting. It's worth it. Above all, though, just embrace that God has you right where he wants you! Remember: God is perfect, and everything he makes is perfect. So if everything he makes is perfect, that means all his followers who follow him will believe in his perfect plan. And if we believe and follow his perfect plan, our life will be fulfilled with a perfection that not even the bad guys can find on their best days. It's a perfection that can make a dream become a reality. This should give us good guys the greatest reason in the world to rest easy. Not to mention all those single ladies will have finally found the guy they deserve!

At the end of it all, this is what we must abide by, good guys: the old 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 section of the bible that states something along the lines of:

" Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance."

Here's the bottom line: The good guy will always win in the end. Always. There will be doubt, there will be searching, and there will be pain. But then again, isn't everything good worth fighting for? What's the worst that happens; you come out of a long struggle to find love and you become a better person for it? I'd take that any day considering not everyone can say that.