“You have a part of me that no one, and I mean no one, has ever had before.” ― J.B. McGee, Forgiven
Many of us have been faced with the hard decision of whether or not to wait until marriage to be sexually intimate. Most of the time, the decision is based on your personal beliefs, whether that be a "how you were raised" decision, or a religious belief"; however, this does not always have to be the case. Are you mentally prepared and physically prepared for this life-changing decision? Here are a few things I would consider before making this very important decision.
1. Sex is a powerful thing regardless of what people say, and it can break you if not taken properly.
Sex is the most powerful and creative force given to man. Sex is a gift from God that allows us to connect in a deeper level with our partner. If you misuse this gift outside the bounds of marriage, it can destroy you and those close to you.
2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social, and academic development.
Although it is hard for them to admit it, adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and its tendency to dominate their daily life.
3. Most women cannot enjoy sex emotionally outside of the bonds of marriage, because to us it means much more than just sex. We feel as though we have more to lose when it comes down to sex.
Therefore, we have more of a sensitivity to the subject than man. I’m not speaking for all women out there, but some of us are this way. Premarital sex usually takes place while sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt.
4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage.
Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way or to fit in with everyone else.
5. The best, and only, method that guarantees you 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.
To some, it may seem old-fashioned, but I personally believe it is the BEST way.
6. For Christians, premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments
The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happiest. I’m not saying that everyone should abide by these because everyone has their own beliefs. For me, I am a Christian that believes that these are rules that I should follow to live a happy life.
7. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating.
But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant, memories until something or someone else comes along, but the other relationships will still be in the back of your mind, regardless.
True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all: the love nest of marriage.
