Violence Against Women Is Far More Common Than We Recognize

Violence Against Women Is Far More Common Than We Recognize

A comment in my college's sexual assault program showed me just how little people know about relationship abuse.


I recently sat in on a sexual assault and healthy relationship discussion for first-year students, in which a peer of mine assumed that no one in the room had directly or indirectly been affected by sexual or relationship violence. I was so incredibly offended by his comment, knowing that multiple girls in the room at the time came from households that had experienced domestic abuse. It made me further think about the many girls I know my age who have been raped, sexually assaulted, or abused. Violence against women is a serious problem in the United States and it is striking to me that college-aged boys seem to have no clue how often it actually occurs.

Over 4 million women experience intimate violence by a partner every year in the US, and over 38 million American women have experienced intimate violence by a partner in their lifetimes. This shows that relationship violence is much more common in America than many think. These numbers don't even take into account those women who live through emotional abuse by their intimate partner. Many of these women suffer in silence and don't even recognize themselves that they are being abused day in and day out.

We've become so accustomed to a dark and extreme picture of domestic abuse that many people fail to recognize the many forms and degrees it can occur in. So many homes experience domestic abuse without those around them knowing and so people think they have never encountered the issue when really it could be happening to those closest to them. My peer clearly failed to believe that his friends and people he knew relatively well could have experience with these issues, while in reality multiple students sitting in the room with him had been personally impacted by relationship abuse.

Many people also don't realize how severe domestic abuse can become and the grave effects it is having on the female population in the US. In fact, three women are murdered in the U.S. every day by a former or current male partner. That is a massive amount of women dying every week, month and year at the hands of their significant others. The violence committed against women is unbelievable, and yet people continue to ignore how pervasive of an issue it really is.

One in five American women will be raped in their lifetimes, with one in three experiencing some form of contact sexual violence. This is especially an issue on college campuses, where 25% of women are raped during their time in college. Furthermore, rape is the most under-reported crime, making these numbers probably far less than the reality. As we saw with "me too", so many women experience sexual assault and harassment without telling their stories.

We cannot begin to fix a problem until we recognize to what degree it exists, and violence against women has far to go before it is seen as the pervasive problem it truly is and is eventually solved. My experience was just one of many with the failure to recognize how common relationship violence is in the US. The American public needs to be educated and understand that those around them have likely either directly or indirectly be impacted by violence against women.

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!


What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

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2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

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3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

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4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

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6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

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7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

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8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

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9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

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10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

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11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

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12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

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13. Frat House Dr. Sign

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Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

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There Is One Group Being Left Out Of The Sexual Assault Conversation

In the age of the #MeToo movement, some people are being left out of the sexual assault discourse.


When we talk or think about sexual assault, we only tend to think about cisgender women, but we often forget about men, the LGBTQ community, especially trans people, and that sexual assault happens to them too.

According to the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey, forty-seven percent of trans people experienced sexual assault at some point in their life.

Earlier this year, Rose McGowan, an actress and feminist, was confronted by a trans woman about her comments about trans women about not being like "regular women" during an interview that she did on RuPaul's "What's the Tea," in July 2017. During the outburst, the trans woman said: "We get raped more often. We go through domestic violence more often." As of 2015, Twenty-one percent of TGQN (Transgender, genderqueer, nonconforming) college students have been sexually assaulted, compared to eighteen percent of non-TGQN females and four percent of non-TGQN males, according to Campus Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct

McGowan responded, "Hold on. So am I. We are the same. My point was, we are the same. There's an entire show called ID channel, a network, dedicated to women getting abused, murdered, sexualized, violated, and you're a part of that, too, sister. It's the same,"

The trans woman then said: "You do nothing for them. Trans women are in men's prisons. And what have you done for them?"

McGowan stated, "What have you done for women?"

It then turned into a shouting match and the trans woman was removed from the Barnes and Noble, where they were, by security.

The transwoman shouted, "cis white feminist."

McGowan got angry and started shouting about not putting labels on her.

However, the moral of the story is: Rose McGowan is a cis white feminist. She does not do anything to support trans women, but she yelled about how women and trans women are the same only after her previous comments against trans women.

The fact of the matter is, feminism is not for marginalized identities, but when confronted, it claims to support everyone.

This situation makes Rose McGowan look bad because she was one of the faces of the #MeToo movement, a movement created by a Black woman with the intent of including every identity.

Men are also affected by sexual assault. According to National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women Survey, about three percent of American males or 1 in 33 have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.

Terry Crews, a former NFL Player and current actor, talked about being sexually assaulted in 2016 by a Hollywood agent in front of his wife. Crews, who supports the #MeToo movement says, "This is how toxic masculinity permeates culture."

As a society, we need to support everyone because sexual assault is real, and it affects everybody. It is a huge issue and there is no room to exclude anyone from standing what they believe is right also to stand for justice.

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