Big changes to routine for anxiety relief

20 HUGE Ways To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone That Ultimately Result In Self-Care

In the mood for adventure, or need to change up your routine?


I struggle with social anxiety (and to a lesser extent, other forms of anxiety), which is something not many people know. It's hard for me to move forward and get better because I've pushed myself into a bad routine. If I go out, it's with very few people. If I get into a conversation, I want to walk right back out of it. I stress over everything. It's at that stage where I can tell I'm getting worse. I find myself going backward, and backward, and backward. With my 18th birthday just days away, I've decided that this year is going to be the year I get better. I'm hoping that by the time I turn 19, I'll be 'transformed', through the hard work and effort I will give. I've learned recently that sometimes little steps aren't enough. Little steps let you give half of yourself, while still letting the anxiety win. Sometimes you need a huge act to step forward and begin healing your mind. Put yourself all in, and experience life. When I'm doing what's out of the ordinary, and not thinking, I'm my best self. Whether you're working yourself out of the downward spiral, or you just need an adventurous changeup in your routine, here are 20 things you can do to challenge yourself!

1. Cut and dye your hair

2. Initiate conversation, with friends or strangers

3. Talk to someone on the street

4. Try a dance class

5. Pick up an instrument

6. Take a sewing class

7. Try crafting/DIY classes

8. Spend the day walking around a popular city, instead of inside your house

9. Go on a spontaneous road trip!

10. Learn a second language (or third, or fourth,)

11. Pick up a part-time job, or quit your old one

Change your routine entirely by adding a job! If you dislike the one you have, take a chance and quit it!

12. Volunteer somewhere you’ve never been

13. Join a group with a common interest

14. Start a garden in your backyard

15. Write a book

Everyone has a story. Everyone has a different point of view. Use these and write a book. Fiction, historical (non)fiction, biography, it's up to you!

16. Go indoor skydiving

17. Get a makeover/transformation

18. Buy new clothes for your wardrobe

19. Adopt an animal

Animals are huge responsibilities but are also therapeutic. Dogs especially are good emotional support pets and are really cute!!

20. Join a support group/therapy

Finally, the (for many) hardest, biggest step of all. Joining a support group for anxiety, or going to therapy. With social anxiety, it's nearly impossible to do this. You're not only putting yourself out there, but you're claiming this mental illness, thinking that people will judge you for it. But it's better, and nobody's judging you. It helps to have a group you can go to, of people who are going through what you are.

Whether you have anxiety, or you just want to change your life, or even if you just want a few adventures, this list is for you! I'll be doing many of these right along with you! Finally, if you have anxiety or other mental illnesses, talk to a healthcare professional, and let them know what you're going through. It may be hard, but it'll be worth it in the end!

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To The Person Who Feels Suicidal But Doesn't Want To Die

Suicidal thoughts are not black and white.

Everyone assumes that if you have suicidal thoughts that means you want to die.

Suicidal thoughts are thought of in such black-and-white terms. Either you have suicidal thoughts and you want to die, or you don't have suicidal thoughts and you want to live. What most people don't understand is there are some stuck in the gray area of those two statements, I for one am one of them.

I've had suicidal thoughts since I was a kid.

My first recollection of it was when I came home after school one day and got in trouble, and while I was just sitting in the dining room I kept thinking, “I wonder what it would be like to take a knife from the kitchen and just shove it into my stomach." I didn't want to die, or even hurt myself for that matter. But those thoughts haven't stopped since.

I've thought about going into the bathroom and taking every single pill I could find and just drifting to sleep and never waking back up, I've thought about hurting myself to take the pain away, just a few days ago on my way to work I thought about driving my car straight into a tree. But I didn't. Why? Because even though that urge was so strong, I didn't want to die. I still don't, I don't want my life to end.

I don't think I've ever told anyone about these feelings. I don't want others to worry because the first thing anyone thinks when you tell them you have thoughts about hurting or killing yourself is that you're absolutely going to do it and they begin to panic. Yes, I have suicidal thoughts, but I don't want to die.

It's a confusing feeling, it's a scary feeling.

When the depression takes over you feel like you aren't in control. It's like you're drowning.

Every bad memory, every single thing that hurt you, every bad thing you've ever done comes back and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you're about the reach the surface. It's suffocating and not being able to do anything about it.

The hardest part is you never know when these thoughts are going to come. Some days you're just so happy and can't believe how good your life is, and the very next day you could be alone in a dark room unable to see because of the tears welling up in your eyes and thinking you'd be better off dead. You feel alone, you feel like a burden to everyone around you, you feel like the world would be better off without you. I wish it was something I could just turn off but I can't, no matter how hard I try.

These feelings come in waves.

It feels like you're swimming and the sun is shining and you're having a great time until a wave comes and sucks you under into the darkness of the water. No matter how hard you try to reach the surface again a new wave comes and hits you back under again, and again, and again.

And then it just stops.

But you never know when the next wave is going to come. You never know when you're going to be sucked back under.

I always wondered if I was the only one like this.

It didn't make any sense to me, how did I think about suicide so often but not want to die? But I was thinking about it in black and white, I thought I wasn't allowed to have those feelings since I wasn't going to act on them. But then I read articles much like this one and I realized I'm not the only one. Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, and my feelings are valid.

To everyone who feels this way, you aren't alone.

I thought I was for the longest time, I thought I was the only one who felt this way and I didn't understand how I could feel this way. But please, I implore you to talk to someone, anyone, about the way you're feeling, whether it be a family member, significant other, a friend, a therapist.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I feel in fear that they would either brush me off because “who could be suicidal but not want to die?" or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something. Writing this article has been the greatest feeling of relief I've felt in a long time, talking about it helps. I know it's scary to tell people how you're feeling, but you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.

Suicidal thoughts aren't black and white, your feelings are valid, and there are people here for you. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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