Valentine's Day (How To Stop Worrying And Love These Five Things Instead)

Valentine's Day (How To Stop Worrying And Love These Five Things Instead)

A list of limited things to keep your mind off of consumerism and not having a romantic partner.

So, it’s Valentine’s Day again. People are pulling up their Netflix accounts to watch cheesy romantic movies for the hundredth time, churning up nickels and pennies in order to get some nice chocolate, or flowers, or even a nice dinner outside of the dorms. There’s a culture of love which emerges, sometimes with the implied consumerism…

…and you’re not part of it, because it involves a significant other, which you don’t have.

If you think about it, then that’s nothing to worry about. I could continue about how being single is not a bad thing as of this time, or any time of the year in general. Not only does it give a person time to think about what they want to do in the future, but also it reduces the amount of stress needed to balance a relationship.

But if you’re still focused on having a significant other, then shouldn’t there be other people to love? Or things?

  • Family: I’ve been told from my parents frequently that friends come and go at different times in your life, and that they could deceive you at any moment. On the other hand, regardless if it’s only a few miles away to an entire ocean, your family will be able to love you and take care of you for as long as they possibly can. Or when you graduate college and get a well-paying job. And so, give them a call, if you don’t do so already. Send some flowers, and maybe a card. On the other hand…
  • Friends: For those who don’t believe in “blood is thicker than water” as strongly as the “friends are the family we choose for ourselves” philosophy, this is a good way to love. And for some of those whose friends are dating someone else, then you should try to restrain the jealousy within them and get to know them. It just leads to a larger, happier family.
  • Food: Because most of us are college students and therefore, hungry, food is usually something to adore and cherish and take pictures of before consuming in excess. In my high school’s newspaper polls during Valentine’s Day, most people would say food is their one true love. It doesn’t make sense, considering how much that relationship is one-sided towards us. But it is something to survive on, and can take up our challenges, so we’ll say we love food.
  • Ourselves! There’s a bunch of external joy out on the world for us to reach out and to chase, but you have to discover it. You’re the one to enjoy all these little pleasures. At the same time, one must be able to create something out of themselves. I’m confident about my own abilities, but one must also provide a good way to apply them so that we could fully love ourselves. While this process can also be done in a relationship, as we can see ourselves in relation to another person, one can do this through self-reflection, work, and having fun, whether with non-significant others, or selves!
  • The fact we still don’t know exactly what love is. People have tried, and yet they couldn’t put a finger on what this phenomenon entails. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try to seek it out.
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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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5 Reasons It's Always Worth It To Be A Summer Camp Counselor

Summer camps have a special place in my heart, and I'm here to share that with you.


Since I was 15, I have been a counselor at various summer camps. I have been a Program Aide at Girl Scout camp, a counselor at church camp, and a counselor at a day camp. These were all camps that I attended as a kid, so they already had a special place in my heart when I got a chance to work at them.

After being a camp counselor for five years, there are things that I have learned on the job that has helped me in life. Being a counselor has also helped me grow as a person. It's helped me gain skills that I don't think I would have learned in other jobs. I'm here to share what I love about the job of being a camp counselor.

1. You get to be the leader/role model

As a kid, there were many counselors in my life that I looked up to. They were people that I strived to be alike in my life, but now that I'm older, I get to be that person for the kid. What I say and do will influence how the kids around me act. That comes with a lot of stress, but it's also empowering. You can be a positive influence in a kids life, and hopefully, teach them important life lessons.

2. You can be your goofy self

One thing that I love about working with kids is that I can be silly around them. Kids won't judge you for being silly because they're silly right alongside you. They feed off your energy, and it can help them explore the world around them through communication. Plus, when was it not fun to be silly?

3. You get to hang out with kids all day

This reason might turn people off from the job, but it's a part of why I love being a counselor. Hanging out with kids tires me out at times, but they also motivate me to keep going. They're little balls of energy, and I feed off of other people's energies well. The kids also help me feel youthful and like nothing matters. Everything is fun to them; they help me keep a positive outlook on life.

4. Your coworkers become your best friends

Working at a summer camp can be difficult at times. It's emotionally and physically draining as well. But having a good support team helps with that. The counselors that I have worked with in the past have become my best friends, and I still stay in touch with some. They're there for you when no one else is, and they understand what you're going through. You know that their feelings for you are genuine, and they want to help as much as they can.

5. You get to watch the kids grow

Over the summer, I get to see the same kids every week at my camp. I get to see them grow as people over the summer and it's a rewarding experience knowing that I was able to help them. Watching them become leaders and grow into little helpers by the end of the summer is one of my favorite things.

I'm excited to have the opportunity to work at a summer camp again this year. I know that it'll provide an opportunity to grow as a person and I can't wait to see my favorite kids again.

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