un·so·lic·it·ed:
ADJECTIVE
- not asked for; given or done voluntarily:"unsolicited junk mail"synonyms: uninvited · unsought · unasked-for · unrequested
I like to generally think of myself as a nice person, but I have had it with grown men who think that I am an object.
I'm a hard worker. I go to my job on time, stay late, pick up shifts, and have pristine customer service skills. I wear clothes on the spectrum of form fitting to over-sized, but more on the over-sized side. I don't like wearing clothes that are too tight because I feel uncomfortable and immobile. That being said, I accept the fact that some people have wondering eyes and hit on me for whatever reason.
What I cannot ever accept is the disgusting things I have heard grown men say about me, to me, or tried to do to me. To name a few:
1. Man 1: "I would fuck the shit out of her if I wasn't married." Man 2: "I'm married and I still would."
2. "She seems bitchy, she probably needs a good dick."
3. "Here's my key, come to my room and I'll show you a good time."
4. "Come out with me and my boys, we'll show you a good time ;)."
5. Leaning in and moving his head from my belly to my neck saying, "MMM you smell good".
6. Physically trying to touch me; "My bad, my bad".
7. Me: "I'm not interested, I have a boyfriend who makes me very happy." Him: "Fuck you, you aren't that pretty anyway."
THESE ARE REAL THINGS SAID BY GROWN MEN WHO ARE IN THEIR MID 30'S-50'S PEOPLE! THIS IS ALL REAL.
All of what has ever been said to me is unsolicited. I never asked for any men to say anything sexual to me or about me. I dress modestly because I would rather go unnoticed than be someone's eye candy. I want you TO LEAVE ME ALONE. I don't care what your story is, and I don't care about the bullshit compliments you think may work on me.
There are only so many times that a person can take this. I usually just smile and laugh it off because these people don't mean anything to me. What makes me upset is that there are other women in this world that are not as strong as I am. They succumb to this pressure given by men who believe that they are gods. It's as if they believe they are "the best damn thing put on this planet" and women should fall at their feet.
NEWSFLASH: NOT ALL WOMEN WANT YOU
I wonder sometimes what these men would think if their daughter was me in those situations. What would they feel or say if someone said these things to their daughter? But obviously, that would never cross their mind in real life. All they are worried about is sex. Before this job I worked in food where men would cat call, touch, and try to solicit me. At my first job ever I had a man attempt to wait for me at my car. I was 15 years old. He was 45. I waited in the restaurant until 2AM until he finally left and never worked there again. The things I hear and witness are evidence enough that I should be guarded 100% of the time. The harsh reality of the world is that all women should keep their wits about them.
Not all men are this way and not every man I've had an encounter with has been this way. But that doesn't mean that because there are a few that happen that we should ignore this behavior.
YOU SHOULD NOT IGNORE THIS BEHAVIOR.
