5 Types Of People You Need To Say "Goodbye" To And Move On With Your Life

5 Types Of People You Need To Say "Goodbye" To And Move On With Your Life

These people are NOT your friends.

So many of us are guilty of allowing toxic people to infiltrate our lives and stopping us from being happy or pursuing a certain job, etc. I think the key in being able to get rid of those negative and selfish people from your life is being able to identify who these people are in the first place.

1. The “friend”

Ever have the friend who couldn’t care less about what you are going through in your life? They are so wrapped up in telling you about what is going on in their life that they conveniently always forget to ask you how you are.

These same people tend to also be the friend who never asks you to hang out - you always must ask them and most likely have to reschedule a couple of times because, surprise! They forgot about your plans the first time and are asking for a raincheck. While we are on the topic of fake friends, if you hang out with a group of people and you all secretly have a lot of drama and problems with one another, but all still pretend like you are friends, that is not the group of people you should be hanging out with.

These people are NOT your friends and you need to stop making them a priority in your life.

2. The “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”

Let me make myself very clear. If your partner has to put restrictions on you because that is how they believe you two should interact with one another, LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP. Your partner shouldn’t be telling you where you can or cannot go, what you can or cannot wear and what you should or shouldn’t do in your life.

Further, if your partner is holding you back from your other friends, your family members or even from your school/ work, you need to get out of this relationship. Your partner may be dealing with a lot of their own personal struggles and as much as you may want to fix them and be their saving grace, that is not your job if, in the end, you are the one getting hurt the most.

3. The “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” continued

If you are pursuing someone in your life romantically, there comes a point where a decision on where the relationship is going needs to be made. If the person you are with is not bringing up this conversation and it has been several months, we have a problem. I wouldn’t say that the person you are pursuing is toxic, but they sure are wasting your time which means they may meet the criteria of exiting your life permanently. It’s time to sit down and have a conversation.

On the other hand, if you are friends with someone and all they talk about is hooking up with you and put you in uncomfortable situations that involve pressuring you to be with them intimately, you need to make your stance on your relationship very clear. If you just want to be friends with them and they aren’t understanding every time you tell them no, GET RID OF THEM. They are just trying to use you and you don’t need that in your life.

4. The “family member”

I know the saying goes blood is thicker than water. However, sometimes your family does not always have your back. Family members can be selfish and it is your responsibility to distance yourself from those members who are just “looking out for your best interest”.

So, to the uncle who tells you that you don’t really need to go to college because you are a girl or that cousin who says that you shouldn’t pursue a certain degree because it won’t make as much money, take what they are saying and put it in one ear and out the other. We can’t get rid of the family but we sure can ignore their mean and insensitive advice.

5. The “stranger”

This category is for everyone else you meet in your life that is trying to bring you down so that you cannot meet your full potential. You have the power to shape your destiny in your life and I believe that if someone that you interact with is throwing negative energy at you to bring you down, you need to leave them alone in their life and not associate anymore.

Sometimes disassociating can be difficult, especially if you work together or are family, but to be honest, there is always a way to make it known that you are not okay by the way someone is treating you and that you are not going to tolerate it.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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A College Student's Guide To Self-Care 101

A trend on the rise, self-care is becoming more and more prevalent.


My social media sites have been exploding with mentions of self-care. Tweets about the concept are ever on the rise and I think it is important to explore the concept. Self-care practices have become increasingly common because people are ever interested in tending to their emotional and physical wellbeing.

Unfortunately, with the popularization of the concept comes misconceptions. Self-care is not strictly about "treating yourself" and face masks. Additionally, it encompasses growth, reflection, and change. So, without further adieu, here are my top ten self-care tips!

1. Learn to be by yourself

This one is harder than people would think at first. Everyone's personality is different and, therefore, their affinity to being alone will differ as well. However, as I mentioned before, self-care is not only about physical practices. It is about eliminating toxicity from your life. This means eliminating bad habits, which is achieved through reflection and acknowledgment of the problematic habituation. Being by yourself allows you to set your own goals for yourself without any influence from outside factors. Additionally, the ability to be by yourself aids in establishing good self-esteem and ensures that the relationships you allow in your life are true and special rather than just to pass time.

2. Accept compliments

I don't know how this became normalized or why, but I despise the fact that girls have been taught to downplay their confidence. If someone offers a compliment, smile and accept it. Positive feelings towards yourself should be integral parts of your thought processes. Additionally, pay yourself compliments. They don't have to be said out loud but appreciate the beauty that is your body. It does so much for you, the least you could do is appreciate it every now and then.

3. Hold yourself accountable

Like I said earlier, part of self-care is eliminating bad habits. The tendency to attribute one's own failures and shortcomings to external forces is self-serving bias and those with good self-esteem are guilty of it. It may be difficult to balance attribution and self-esteem but in order to achieve growth, you have to acknowledge your own faults. This will allow for clarity and for you to work towards achieving better habits.

4. Don't bottle up your feelings

I am especially guilty of not following this tip. Keeping to yourself may seem like the easier thing to do and, if you are like anything like me, you may hate being seen as an inconvenience. However, I know that if I bottle up for too long, I tend to shut down and then I won't be able to achieve anything. Expressing your feelings is okay. Crying is okay. Anger is okay. Emotion is okay.

5. Try new things

Take a yoga class. Volunteer. Go to a new restaurant. Anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone incubates growth. You don't even have to enjoy everything you do, you just have to try. However, you may also find a new passion because of it.

6. Get some sleep

Don't spend all your time sleeping and lose all motivation to do anything, but make a conscious effort to get sufficient sleep so that all of your days can be as efficient as possible. You will be more energized and your immune system, as well as your physical appearance, will thank you.

7. Don't force yourself to do things you don't like

I know I said to try new things. However, if your best friend loves running and you go with her one day and find out you HATE it, don't force yourself. Find what works for you through trial and error. You will be much happier with your own flow and it keeps you from developing resentment.

8. Learn to say no

All the women in my life are especially guilty of this. We spread ourselves too thin because we can't say no. This goes hand in hand with not forcing yourself to do things that you don't want to do. Saying no doesn't make you a bitch, it makes you strong and lets people know that you know what you want.

9. Say what you mean

Don't sugarcoat things. It will leave you feeling unfulfilled and, quite frankly, it's exhausting trying to tiptoe around what you really mean. Don't be rude or aggressive, rather assertive and straight forward. It will make you a better communicator and will take pressure off of you as well.

10. Finally, treat yourself

I said self care wasn't entirely about that. I didn't say it wasn't necessary.

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