9 Truths About Being A Social Butterfly

9 Truths About Being A Social Butterfly

The pros, cons, and everything in between.
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There's the stereotype that only children have of "not being able to socialize with others" and "not having very many friends" because they're always by themselves. That may be true for some people; however, that's the complete opposite for me! One of the reasons that my parents placed me into preschool was for me to not only learn, but to also communicate more with children my age. Thanks to that decision, I've been making friends ever since! My mother would be so amused as we walked through the grocery store, the mall, the library, and other places in my home town and I saw a friend from school, sports, or rehearsal and would say hi to them. I'm so grateful and fortunate for all the friends I have made in the past and all the friends that I have now. I'm also very grateful for God blessing me with an outgoing personality, which has obviously helped me in making friends and is now playing a key part in how I get involved around campus, as well as my future.

I know that I can't be the only social butterfly that exists; I realize there's a lot of people like me that are extroverted and love meeting new people and making new friends. While there are perks to being a social butterfly, there are also cons--which I will mention throughout this article. If you're a social butterfly, perhaps you can relate to the following things:

1. When people ask you "how do you make friends?" and it's hard for you to answer because...well, you just do.

Practically what I say every single time, in addition to a few more pieces of advice.

2. You have multiple connections, so when anyone needs something, "you know a guy" (or gal, respectively).

An extremely important thing to have, especially as a college student. You may meet someone that has the opportunity you need, and it may change your life.

3. Wanting to hang out with people, but also needing your personal space.

This is extremely necessary. As much as we love to be around people, "me time" is also a good time.

4. Making friends with the wrong people.

Long story short, it sucks. Big time.

5. When you're with one friend group and you see another friend group you're apart of, and you want to say hi to them and hang out with them for a while, but you don't want to make the other friend group feel bad.

The amount of times that I've had this happen to me is more than I can count on both hands. I have hung out with the other friend group for a while (or maybe for the entire time the event took place...oops) and the friends I left were mad about me leaving. This was mainly in elementary school, when people took things way too seriously.

6. In addition, you might do this the night you invite two different friend groups over for an event...throughout the entire time.

Quite literally, this is the tiny dance pretty much every social butterfly has when this happens. You just want to make sure everyone is getting along and enjoying themselves.

7. Whenever you begin to talk to someone new and you discover you have something in common:

It's awesome to meet someone that has the same likes and dislikes as you. The conversation topics are endless!

8. When you meet someone new but they're kind of not into the conversation as you are.

**insert grimacing emoji here**

9. When you see your once quiet friends beginning to make new friends and step out of their shell.

Considering it's a big step for them to be making new friends, you become super proud of them.


One final note: If you're struggling with making friends, I just want to let you know this one thing: you are not alone. Lots of people struggle with making friends for a multitude of reasons. You don't have to be a social butterfly if you genuinely don't feel comfortable with it, I completely respect your decision. Breaking out of your shell is totally your decision and yours alone. If you feel that you're ready for making friends, just a few simple tips. Be yourself. Relax. Smile. You can do anything you set your mind to. You're awesome. They might have trouble making friends too. A simple "hi how are you?" might change their day. I believe in you.

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This Valentine’s Day, I want to express my love for you. On this wondrous occasion with which most people express their love to their significant other, I want to tell you, my best friend, how much I cherish our friendship.

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You are the ultimate love of my life. Boys have come and gone but you remain a constant; for that I am grateful. You have been there for me when my family could not be; for that I am grateful. You have been my backbone, my rock, and all those other clichés people use to describe the people they care about, and yet you have been so much more than that as well; for that I am grateful.

All my love this Valentine’s Day goes out to you, my friend, because you do not receive it enough. You have picked me up out of the dirt, brushed me off, and kissed my wounds more times than I can count, and I will never be able to thank you enough for that, but I am sure am going to try.

Thank you for the midnight cries. Thank you for the midnight laughs. Thank you for ordering way too much food with me and still just eating it all. Thank you for the advice, both solicited and unsolicited. Thank you for telling me what I need to hear, even when it isn’t what I want to hear. Thank you for the silly pictures. Thank you for the stupid inside jokes. Thank you for making bad decisions with me. Thank you for laughing with me and laughing at me. Thank you for the endless memories.

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To My Best Friend At A Rival University

No amount of school rivalry could ever change our friendship.

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In high school, we were practically inseparable- you and I and all of our friends. Even though we saw each other every day during the week (when both of us decided to actually go to school, at least; senioritis was real and it was rough), we usually saw each other at least once over the weekend, whether it be a coffee date at Starbucks, a sleepover, or a trip to the movies.

We would go on spontaneous trips to the local ice cream shop (for us, it was Twistee Treat) far too often for our own good. We spent so many summer days at theme parks, followed by sleepovers that consisted of painting each other's nails, baking break-and-bake cookies, and falling asleep in the middle of 'Men in Black.'

Now, we attend rival universities. The stories we share involve names and places foreign to the other. We each have friends that know us apart from one another. Some days, we hardly get a moment to talk, other than sending funny memes back and forth through Instagram.

Though it may seem like being away at rival schools would hurt our friendship, I think it's only made us closer.

When I come to visit you (or you visit me), we always make the most of our time, knowing that it's limited. We often do the same things we would've done at home, but in new locations, which makes it even more fun. Sometimes, I wish we would've chosen the same school- because having your best friend with you, sharing new experiences is always better than not- but I know we're each happy where we are. We're making new friends and new memories, which makes for new stories to share with one another.

I know that I can share anything with you without fear of judgment, and I think you know the same.

Even though we can't just stop by unannounced anymore, planning weekend trips to visit one another is still really fun.

Sure, we go to rival universities and we will never agree on whose school is superior, but in the grand scheme, it doesn't even matter. Your school is extremely lucky to have you and in my eyes, you are what makes it great.

No matter the distance, no matter how strong the rivalry between our schools, you will always be my best friend and the memories we've cultivated throughout our friendship will never be forgotten. I can't promise I'll wear your school colors again (that was a one-time thing and does not diminish my love and respect for my school!), but I can promise that you'll always have a friend in me.

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