Pros And Cons To Being A Social Butterfly

Pros And Cons To Being A Social Butterfly

However, the pros totally outweigh the cons.
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Some believe being a social butterfly is an excellent quality to have while others may assume they're try hards, social climbers and ultimately prefer to have tons of pointless friends rather than a reliable group of close friends. As a social butterfly, I'm here to set the record straight. A social butterfly is not always an indication of someone who can't keep their friends close, it's a person who has exceptional social skills and genuinely enjoys getting to know new people. However, being a social butterfly surely has its faults. Here's a couple pros and cons to being a social butterfly:


Pro: We're not afraid to go out of our way to approach new people

A lot of people don't care to or are nervous in regard to sparking a conversation with someone they don't know. Some make the excuse that if others approach them then they don't mind talking with that person, but I don't believe that's the best mentality to have. Why should people always have to approach you? Think of it this way: if you're at a networking party, do you expect the people you're trying to impress to seek you out? Clearly not. So if you want to approach someone don't be afraid to. On the other hand, if you just don't care to, then you could miss out on meeting great people.


Pro: We have the capability of keeping a conversation going

For many, it's difficult to find things to talk about upon first meeting someone or just someone they don't know very well. In my opinion, a person you've just met should be the easiest to spark up a conversation with because there's an endless amount of questions you can ask. I always tell people if they're not sure what to discuss, just ask the person general questions: Are you currently working or in school? How do you know [insert name here]? Have you always resided in Los Angeles? Basic questions like this are great ice breakers and surely won't offend the person you're trying to get to know.


Con: A lot of us don't enjoy solitude

I can't speak for all social butterflies, but I certainly hate being alone. Of course there's moments where I enjoy relaxing by myself, but 90% of the time I'd rather be around people. Especially since I grew up an only child. I always want to get out of my house rather than stay in which is a problem on days when everyone is busy and I'm forced to hang out at home. It's one thing if it's my choice to not go out, but it's another when you're trying so hard to make plans and it doesn't work out.


Con: Our good friends might believe we're so all over the place that we don't prioritize our time with them

Whether you realize it or not, there is a hierarchy when it comes to friendships. We've got best friend(s), good friends and acquaintances. Some people take the hierarchy more seriously than others. What people should understand is that if I, for example, have plans with a new friend, then I'm going to follow through with my initial plan because I don't believe it's right to ditch someone (even for my best friend). Unless, however, a friend I'm close with needs me for any reason or if they're celebrating an occasion then of course I'll take a rain check with my acquaintance. Know that there's nothing wrong with consistently going out of your way to get to know new people. What's not right is friends who may put you down if you enjoy spending time outside your social circle.

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An Open Letter To Every Girl With A Big Heart, Except When It Comes To Herself

Because it's so much easier to love everyone around you before yourself.
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They say the key is that you have to "love yourself before you can love anyone else," or before "anyone can love you."

For those who deal with mass amounts of anxiety, or have many insecurities, that can be an extremely hard task. It seems much easier to tell your friend who is doubting herself that she looks great in that top than to look in the mirror and feel the same about yourself. It is much easier to tell your significant other that everything is going to be OK than to believe it will be when something goes wrong in your life. It becomes easier to create excuses for the ones around you than for yourself, and this is because you have such a big heart. You want those that you love to be happy and worry-free, yet you spend nights thinking about everything you have on your plate, about what you did wrong that day, fearing if someone in your life is mad at you, believing that you will never be good enough yet convincing everyone else that they are.

You are the girl with the biggest heart, yet you can't love yourself the way you care for everyone else in your life. There are many reasons that you should love yourself, though, and that's something that everyone around you is willing to tell you.

You're thoughtful.

Before doing anything, you always consider how it is going to affect those around you. You don't want to do anything that could hurt someone, or something that could make someone mad at you. It does not take much to make you happy, just seeing others happy does the job, and it is that simple. Because of this, you remember the little things. Meaningful dates, small details, and asking someone how their day was is important to you, and it makes those around you feel important too. You simply just want the people that you care about to be happy, and that is an amazing trait.

You're appreciative.

You don't need a big, fancy, and expensive date night to make you happy. Whether it's a picnic on the beach or a night in watching a movie, you're happy to just be with the person that you love. You appreciate every "good morning" text, and it truly does mean something when someone asks how you are. You tend to appreciate the person that you're with more than the things that they provide and for that, your sincerity will never go unnoticed.

You have a lot of love in your heart.

Every "I love you" has meant something, just as you remember the smallest moments that have meant the most to you. You remember the look in your significant other's eyes when they told you that for the first time. You remember the smile on your best friend's face when you told them that everything was going to be OK and that you would always be there. You remember the swell of happiness your parents felt when you decided to surprise them with a trip home one day, and you thrive off of all of that love.

You don't give up on the people you love, even if they have given you a reason to.

It is a foreign idea to just drop someone from your life, even if they betrayed you. You try to look at their mistake from every stance, not wanting to provide an excuse for them, but to give them another chance. Not everyone deserves it, and that is something that you learn along the way, but you feel good in the sense that you gave them a chance even if no one else would.

It's OK to not love yourself all the time. It's normal, and natural to stand in the mirror and think about everything wrong. And it's OK to love other people, even when you can't feel the same about yourself. But your big heart is why you should love yourself. There are so many reasons that you are a beautiful person, and the people that you spend all your time caring about feel that you have so much more to offer the world, and yourself.

So, next time you think about what you don't like about yourself, remember what makes you special –– the size of your heart and all of the love in it, and then share that love with yourself.

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7 Of The Best Things About Having Hispanic Roommates

Home is where you can smell the taco seasoning!

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"Our differences make us the same." Most children hear this preached to them from a young age, but fewer take to heart what this means. On the day I signed an apartment contract with my roommates, I had no idea what to expect. I was a white chick living with two Hispanic girls who were already friends and I had no idea if they would even like or accept me. I was clueless about what their lives were like prior to my meeting them, but I wanted to build relationships with the girls I would potentially be sharing space with for the next two years!

Y'all. My roommates are the biggest blessing. They are nothing but a BLAST to be around, and I can't thank them enough for their love and encouragement in my life. Here are a few of the greatest things about being more than a lease-filler, but a friend to two talented, dedicated, kick-butt Hispanic beauties!

1. Latin pop has become a regular in my Spotify playlists 

I don't know most of the words because I'm far from fluent in Spanish, but it comforts me to know that sometimes my roommates don't know the lyrics either! We all make up our own words sometimes, in any language!

2. Meeting their families is THE MOST fun!

Every time I'm introduced to another sibling or cousin or high school friend (which is a regular occurrence), it's the best time ever! If there's a family member in our house, it's a party!

3. The kitchen always smells like fancy spices and love!

These girls know how to COOK (a talent I do not possess). I swore off spicy food until they introduced me to *real* taquitos. All kinds of yum! (Although, it makes anything I cook for them WAY less impressive!)

4. I always have a different perspective to consider 

Obviously, our world is pretty politically charged right now and things like race, religion and gender can be really touchy. My sweet roommates have always given me new insight on sociopolitical ideas that have helped shape the way I see my world as a whole. I can't thank them enough for their honesty and ability to just not give a crap when the time is right!

5. They've given me a new appreciation for all living things 

My roomies have a beautiful sense of compassion for all life. I see it in the way they treat their animals, their *many, many* house plants, and everyone that walks through our front door. They understand that all God's creatures needs good food, fresh water, and open blinds.

6. I live with the best design consultants ever 

My roomies have a keen eye for color and texture in everything from bedroom decor and living room set-ups to clothing ensembles and flower arrangements. It amazes me how easily they piece these things together when I struggle to match my shirt and pants in the morning!

7. My roommates' friends assume I'm Hispanic before they meet me, and I love seeing their reactions when they discover I'm not!

My name is "Ella" which is "she" in Spanish, so before meeting me, my roommates' other non Spanish-speaking friends automatically paint a mental picture of what I look like, which isn't usually a blonde, very Caucasian girl covered in tattoos! We all have a good laugh about it afterwards.

Miriam and Tanya, I love you so much. You rock my socks off.

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