Pros And Cons To Being A Social Butterfly

Pros And Cons To Being A Social Butterfly

However, the pros totally outweigh the cons.

Some believe being a social butterfly is an excellent quality to have while others may assume they're try hards, social climbers and ultimately prefer to have tons of pointless friends rather than a reliable group of close friends. As a social butterfly, I'm here to set the record straight. A social butterfly is not always an indication of someone who can't keep their friends close, it's a person who has exceptional social skills and genuinely enjoys getting to know new people. However, being a social butterfly surely has its faults. Here's a couple pros and cons to being a social butterfly:

Pro: We're not afraid to go out of our way to approach new people

A lot of people don't care to or are nervous in regard to sparking a conversation with someone they don't know. Some make the excuse that if others approach them then they don't mind talking with that person, but I don't believe that's the best mentality to have. Why should people always have to approach you? Think of it this way: if you're at a networking party, do you expect the people you're trying to impress to seek you out? Clearly not. So if you want to approach someone don't be afraid to. On the other hand, if you just don't care to, then you could miss out on meeting great people.

Pro: We have the capability of keeping a conversation going

For many, it's difficult to find things to talk about upon first meeting someone or just someone they don't know very well. In my opinion, a person you've just met should be the easiest to spark up a conversation with because there's an endless amount of questions you can ask. I always tell people if they're not sure what to discuss, just ask the person general questions: Are you currently working or in school? How do you know [insert name here]? Have you always resided in Los Angeles? Basic questions like this are great ice breakers and surely won't offend the person you're trying to get to know.

Con: A lot of us don't enjoy solitude

I can't speak for all social butterflies, but I certainly hate being alone. Of course there's moments where I enjoy relaxing by myself, but 90% of the time I'd rather be around people. Especially since I grew up an only child. I always want to get out of my house rather than stay in which is a problem on days when everyone is busy and I'm forced to hang out at home. It's one thing if it's my choice to not go out, but it's another when you're trying so hard to make plans and it doesn't work out.

Con: Our good friends might believe we're so all over the place that we don't prioritize our time with them

Whether you realize it or not, there is a hierarchy when it comes to friendships. We've got best friend(s), good friends and acquaintances. Some people take the hierarchy more seriously than others. What people should understand is that if I, for example, have plans with a new friend, then I'm going to follow through with my initial plan because I don't believe it's right to ditch someone (even for my best friend). Unless, however, a friend I'm close with needs me for any reason or if they're celebrating an occasion then of course I'll take a rain check with my acquaintance. Know that there's nothing wrong with consistently going out of your way to get to know new people. What's not right is friends who may put you down if you enjoy spending time outside your social circle.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.

Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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It Is OK To Have Guy Friends That Are Literally Just Guy Friends

Some of my best friends are guys and sometimes they are better friends than girls are.


Lately, I have come to the realization that some of my guy friends are better then some girls I call my "friends". Ever since middle school, I have always had many guy friends that have always been just guy friends, and nothing more. Some girls had a problem with it back then and they still do now, maybe because they are jealous, or maybe because they feel left out. However, I decided a long time ago to keep those guy friends for reasons like...

1. They Don't Take Things So Seriously

You can always joke around with them, and they will joke around with you right back. You can be as nice as you want or as mean as you want to them, and they will always take it as joke. I think that sometimes girls have a difficult time deciphering between when you are being serious or when you are joking. Most of my guys friends tend to not things too seriously at least 75% of the time.

2. They Are Always Honest

When I need a blatantly honest opinion I always ask my guy friends (and my mom). I do this because guys do not really care about whether or not their response will make you mad. Also, guys do not think about if their answer will benefit them personally or not before they answer.

3. They Genuinely Listen To You

Not all the time. But when I am upset, they are always the ones most concerned. Some of my guy friends take over the "big brother" role when it comes to some situations. My guy friends always listen to my problems or just the same old rants I give all the time because if something is wrong, or something has hurt me, they want to know, in order for them to try and fix it.

I am not trying to say that my girl friends are not my best friends either, and I really do have the best best friend. But sometimes, it just feels good to hangout with my guy friends. Guy friends, that I have never had a romantic relationship or feelings for and they have not had for me. These guys have always been there, and for that I am grateful.

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