9 Truths Everyone Needs To Know About Depression

9 Truths Everyone Needs To Know About Depression

Society has a lot of assumptions about people living with depression.

A bad day starts with my alarm going off, but I cannot get out of bed. My body feels like it weighs more than an elephant. When I finally get out of bed at noon, I feel so stupid that I let my depression win. For the rest of the day, I am tired, but I cannot just sleep it off. Even after a good night’s sleep or a nap, I am still exhausted from head to toe. I get through my day just to start all over again the next morning, but there are a few things that I want everybody to know about me.

1. Depression is not a choice and I don’t get to choose when it hits me.

2. Sometimes, I do not know why I am sad.

3. This is not a phase in my life, but at the same time, I will not struggle with depression forever.

4. I’m not trying to hurt you when I give short answers or don’t want to leave the house.

Sometimes, I just want to be alone with myself. I am not mad at you. I just get overwhelmed by everything that is going on in my life.

5. I try my hardest every single day, but sometimes that is not good enough

6. Making friends is hard for me because a voice in my head constantly says, “They won’t understand!”

7. If you have questions about my depression; just ask. Talking about it helps me.

8. Just because I don’t look like I have depression does not mean it is not there.

9. Just because I am depressed, doesn’t mean that I am suicidal.

With all of this, do not define me by my depression. I want people around me to be understanding, but do not coddle me. I am a real person and I want people to value me for who I am, not because they think I am fragile. This is not something that will go away with time, but I am working on it. I see a counselor every week and I put my self-care before anything else in my life, but most of all, God has been my rock through this whole journey. Through my faith, I am able to see that I will be able to overcome what I am going through. With Him, I have all the hope in the world. So, the next time that somebody opens up and tells you that they are struggling with depression, remember these things.

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65 Truths College Students Need to Hear Right Now

Truth every college student needs to hear.

1. The best memories are ones you actually can remember.

2. God isn’t going to ask you if you were in a top-tier sorority or fraternity at the gates.

3. You failed a test, not your life.

4. Numbers don’t define you.

5. That includes the number you see that is your grade.

6. Also, how much you weigh.

7. As well as if you are a “7/10” on a so-called “hot scale.”

8. Or if you can bench press 200 lbs. (@ all the guys at the gym, please chill.)

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9. Innocence is nothing to be ashamed of.

10. Neither are mistakes.

11. But learn from your mistakes. Mistakes can be lessons, which can be the biggest blessing.

12. Your metabolism isn’t what it used to be and that is okay.

13. You may not always understand what God is doing, but I promise He has a plan.

14. Every person you meet is battling their own struggles.

15. Life isn’t always great moments.

16. But you have to walk through the forest to get to the mountain top.

17. Your heart isn’t damaged. It is temporarily broken but it will be fixed.

18. However, the only one who can fix a broken heart is the one who created it.

19. So a cute boy or hot girl can’t put the pieces back together.

20. Neither can ice cream.

21. But ice cream can totally help.

22. Stop texting your ex. He/She is your ex for a reason.

23. Loving Jesus means loving people.

24. Loving Jesus also means loving the image of Him in the mirror you see.

25. Stop hiding your emotions. Stop crying in the bathroom or behind a locked door. You have people in your life who care about you.

26. Suicide is never the answer.

27. Breathe in, breathe out.

28. Do you feel your heart pump? Do you feel the air exiting your body? That is a sign you are here for a purpose. Your life is no mistake.

29. Just because you doubt, doesn’t mean you don’t believe in Jesus.

30. However, when walking on the water scares you, look to Jesus and keep your eyes on Him.

31. If you have the opportunity to go to school go. There are young girls around the world who would do anything to sit at the desk you are complaining about.

32. Don’t pick a career based on money.

33. However, I promise you can use any passion or gift to serve a purpose bigger than yourself if you allow yourself to give it to the One who gave it to you.

34. You don’t need pretty prayers to please God.

35. Talk to Him like you are talking to a friend.

36. Look for the good in everyone.

37. That includes the mean girl who no one likes. Chances are she is mean for a reason. Someone was once mean to her. Kill her with kindness.

38. Pray to have the Lord’s eyes. See people with love.

39. Try to have the Lord’s hands, always be reaching out to others.

40. Each morning, pray to have the Lord’s feet and go where He calls you.

41. It is a bad day, not a bad life.

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42. You don’t need a six-pack to find a man who loves you.

43. You need a spouse who will be able to look at you when you are 80, and wrinkly and maybe a little chunky, and you need him to love you then. If he loves you for your body and your hair, I promise he doesn’t actually love you. Looks fade, but love is eternal. Find someone who loves you like Jesus.

44. Do some squats.

45. But squat so you feel good about yourself, not to attract the opposite sex.

46. You are never too old to find a new hobby.

47. You were beautiful before someone told you.

48. If you don’t know if you are in relationship or not, leave. You deserve clarity, not insecurity.

49. You deserve friendships that are mutual.

50. The best Friday nights are spent with a puppy and food. It is okay to not always be social.

51. Stop worrying about whether your crush will text you back.

52. Stop over analyzing everything in general.

53. Pray for your future spouse.

54. However, also pray for your future bridesmaids/groomsmen. Some of the most influential people you may have in your life you may not have even met yet.

55. Storms bring strength.

56. And storms bring rainbows if you are patient and observant.

57. Stop Pinteresting your dream life and start living it.

58. The Bible is actually extremely relatable. Open it up. Read it.

59. Romans 8:28 “and we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” God is on your team. He wants you to have moments of celebration. He has a purpose for you greater than your bad day.

60. Never forget what Jesus did for you on that cross. When he died for you, it was painful and brutal. It was ugly. It was love. Don’t let that truth ever become numb to you no matter how many times you have heard the story.

61. There is nothing wrong with carbs.

62. Study. And don’t wait for the night before.

63. Find someone who you can look up to.

64. Also, never forget that there is always someone looking up to you. Act like someone you would want your future children to be. Act in a way that reflects wisdom.

65. Smile more, you are loved by the one who hung the stars and painted the sea. He created puppies and carbs–yet still loves you more. That is something to celebrate.

College is tough and life is hard. You are going to have moments where all you want to do is celebrate life with your best friends, but you will also have moments where you just want to lock the door, ignore everyone, and have a good cry. Never forget that your worth comes from something greater than your Biology grade, and from Someone greater that the one who broke your heart.

You aren’t too cool for Christ in college. Christ is a necessity for you in your life. He can hold your hand during your heartbreaks and failures and celebrate with you when you get the text back or a passing grade in foreign language. He loves for you and cares for you more than your sorority or fraternity ever will.

So buy your books, do your homework, but never forget when you are walking to you 8:00 a.m. you regretfully signed up for, to look up. Look at the clouds and the sky and thank your creator that in a big big world with many beautiful things, He still loves our messy hearts even more. So this one is for the boys for the King. This life is for the One who laid down His life.

I promise college is more fun when you dance with your Savior. Follow His lead and let him take you on a journey where you can find your purpose. You may not know where you are going, but you do know who you are following.

So never forget that although classes may be hard, and your metabolism may be slowing down–God is still good. He turns our ashes into beauty and our trials into our testimony. Do life with your creator and I promise you that you will have more than you need.

Romans 8:28 “And we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

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College Life Can Be Stressful, But It's All About How You Manage It

Stress in college is inevitable, but there are ways we can learn self care to decrease stress and depression.


College can be a stressful time in a person life no matter their age, a young adult coming right out of high school and going into living on their own if they choose to live on campus, and school is going to be completely different then what they are used to.

Then you have the pressure to socialize with new people maybe even joying a sorority or fraternity. There was a poll taken in 2016 conducted by the American College Health Association, they found 34.4% of college students reported that stress had a negative impacted on their academic performance.

And it doesn't matter on the age of the student you can be a 19-year-old student in your first year or an older in their 30's trying to finish their degree. The stress is different for everyone but it's always a factor. according to the American college health Association, stress was the single most common inhibitor on student academic performance, and this was then followed by depression, anxiety, and sleep difficulties.

Students can put a lot on themselves whether that be taking to many classes in a semester, or staying up all night they will stay up late cramming for the next day's exam and not get enough sleep to focus.


Finances are also very stressful, many students work and pay for their college or maybe their family has saved for them. But then you have the student who is on a scholarship who have the stress of keeping their grades and GPA up to make sure they don't lose it.

Or you have the single parent going back to school to make a better life for their kids, and/or a single income family that relies on financial aid because they don't make enough to pay for the classes and pay their bills.

Socializing can also be stressful, there are some people that have a harder time getting out and being social than others, and it can be hard to put yourself out there when you don't know anyone.

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There are so many factors that can make college very stressful, but there are things that students can do as well. When it comes to your academics, make sure you have good time management this will help when you have papers due and keeping a planner whether it be on your phone since we all always have our phones or have a planner on our desk, this will help us know what is due and when.

Stop waiting till the last minute to get your assignments done, this is only going to hurt you. Get out and take a walk and be active. This will help with your focusing and getting out into fresh air always helps clear the mind. Eat a little better, now this can be hard at times especially during finals but eating healthier can help with energy.

Stay hydrated, get enough sleep and take a break, you can't cram everything into your head and think it's going to stay if you are so tired and burnt out. Ask for help or start a study group having people around you will help with stress and know your not alone there are plenty of us out there that are going through the same thing.

Life can be stressful but asking for help is not a sign of weakness its a sign of strength.

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