There are times in our life when we feel great uncertainty. It could be a choosing to take a job, moving somewhere unfamiliar, starting anew somewhere you’ve never been, or even being in a relationship with someone.

In my case, I had uncertainty in my heart about a relationship I was in. I was doubtful of it ever working out in the end. Since I’m a spiritual person, I asked God for a sign. I asked God for manifestation that could ease my troubled heart. Of course, I always wanted it to be good. I wanted to see that we were “meant to be,” whatever that means, anyway.

What I didn’t want was what is best for me. At times, what we want isn’t what’s best for us. For example, being a lawyer maybe something that you want, but once you achieve that, it doesn’t turn out to be what’s best for you. Traveling may be something that you think you want, but once you start doing it, you realize that you’re homesick and want to come back to where your heart really is. The point is, what we want is not always worth going after; what’s best for us is what’s worth going after. So, how can we distinguish between what’s good for us and what we want?

It’s not easy. For me, I wanted this person so badly that it ended up breaking me in hundred pieces. I constantly put him before me. Let me assure you that there’s nothing wrong with putting other people before you as long as it’s reciprocated in the same amount. You can’t be crossing oceans for people when they’re only crossing puddles for you. It only benefits the other person because he’s receiving much more than he’s giving. So, his account is always fully loaded.

But, what about you? You’re paying bills without having any sort of income. And, when you’re broke, that person who kept receiving from you is longer there because you have nothing to give him, let alone give yourself. To make matters worse, you’re not only broke, you are broken, too.

That’s when the power of time comes in. I truly believe that time heals all. Forgetting is a blessing that we often overlook granted to us by God. As humans, we are forgetful naturally. But, when it comes to forgetting pain, we have to force it out. We have to become allies with time to push out the memory of our wounds. And, we have to pursue what is best for us, not merely what we want or love. I spent a year asking for a sign, and finally, I got it loud and clear. It just wasn’t what I wanted, but it’s what’s best for me. There's peace in knowing something you wanted badly isn't good for you.

Time is what showed me that. What most people don’t realize is that time causes both uncertainty and assurance. When time hasn’t arrived, one is filled with uncertainty; but, when enough time passes, it’s like a blind person seeing a rainbow for the first time.

So, I won’t tell you to let go because remembering to forget is a painful paradox. Just let it be and trust time.