True Friendship Are Hard To Find And Build, But They're Worth It

True Friendship Is Difficult To Find, But It'll All Be Worth It When You Have Someone For A 2 A.M. Vent Session

A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort.


Friend. Such a simple word with such complex meanings.

When someone says "friend" there are many different meanings to it. It could mean a friend who is more than a friend and you just haven't accepted it yet. It could mean a friend who is an acquaintance and really doesn't mean much to the person, it is just easier to say friend then explain the back story. It could also mean a friend who is a real and honest person that is always there for you. There are many different interpretations of the word "friend."

I recently attended a beautiful wedding where friends were a big component. The bride and the groom's friends have been a part of their lives for many years and they act like a big family. It was so astonishing and amazing to see how they all interacted and how their parents were all friends as well.

Attending this wedding really got me thinking about the people I surround myself with and who I'm able to call a friend.

A wise person once told me that you can count on one hand the number of real friends you have. This person explained that you only count the friends that would help you at two o'clock in the morning if you were stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere and needed help. Once I got older I realized the importance of this message.

Today, I'm able to count the number of friends I have on one hand. This doesn't mean the people who wouldn't drive to save you at two o'clock in the morning aren't your friends. They could very well still be your friend. But ask yourself if the friendship is contributing to your growth.

It can be very hard to let some people leave your life, however, if the friendship is not equal and if it is not contributing to your growth as an individual, it is not worth it in the long run.

To me, friends should be the people in your life that lift you up and make life more fun and enjoyable. A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort. A strong friendship should also include, communication, commitment, and support.

A strong friendship is hard to come by. But when you find your best friend, it's all worth it.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry

Let's be real: you and your roommate have said these things at least one to each other.

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*Complains about not having money* *Spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee."

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your DM's."

*Cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *Catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*Chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *Loses phone* Every. Time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*Tries to get ready to do something fun* *Ends up staying in for another girls' night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"


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To My Long-Distance Best Friend, We Might Be 7,811 Miles Apart, But Our Friendship Only Gets Stronger

It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.


To my best friend,

It has been 270 days since I last met you and 206 more days until I meet you again. People say that time flies by quickly, but these have been the most difficult days that seemed to drag on forever. Five years ago when you were sitting next to me on the first day of our sociology class, I had no idea we would end up being best friends. From sharing my mother's parathas during lunch breaks to the countless sleepovers, I will never forget all the memories we created throughout high school.

I vividly remember the day I told you I would be studying abroad. You were so happy and proud of me for pursuing my dreams but also upset that we wouldn't be seeing each other every now and then. I was worried if our friendship would even last. But we have spent almost two years away from each other and our friendship only seems to get stronger.

I'm so grateful to technology for allowing us to be in touch all the time. My day doesn't feel complete if I do not receive a text from you. I know we do not video call often because of how busy our schedules are (another reason being time zones suck and I cannot do the math), but always know that I am there for you. It breaks my heart that I cannot be around for your birthdays or to celebrate your achievements. But I'm so proud of every milestone you achieve. I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the person you are becoming.

We have both had some terrible friendship experiences in our past before we met each other that have completely broken our faith in friendships. But know that you can always count on me and that I will never leave your side. Know that I will always set an alarm early in the morning just to video call you. Know that I will always be there for you (even if I'm not physically present around you). Know that you will always be the first person I share everything with.

I cannot thank you enough for everything you have done for me. Thank you for encouraging me to make new friends at college. Thank you for always being there during my failures and reminding me that it's not the end of the world and that more opportunities will come my way. Thank you for being there during my successes and being my number one cheerleader. Thank you for always reminding me to love myself. You not only have a special place in my heart but also have a special place in my family. My mother and sister are not only glad that I have a best friend like you but also adore you so much. It is impossible to imagine a life without you.

I cannot wait for more butter chicken sleepover dates in December!

Lots of love,

Your best friend.

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