True Friendship Is Difficult To Find, But It'll All Be Worth It When You Have Someone For A 2 A.M. Vent Session

True Friendship Is Difficult To Find, But It'll All Be Worth It When You Have Someone For A 2 A.M. Vent Session

A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort.


Friend. Such a simple word with such complex meanings.

When someone says "friend" there are many different meanings to it. It could mean a friend who is more than a friend and you just haven't accepted it yet. It could mean a friend who is an acquaintance and really doesn't mean much to the person, it is just easier to say friend then explain the back story. It could also mean a friend who is a real and honest person that is always there for you. There are many different interpretations of the word "friend."

I recently attended a beautiful wedding where friends were a big component. The bride and the groom's friends have been a part of their lives for many years and they act like a big family. It was so astonishing and amazing to see how they all interacted and how their parents were all friends as well.

Attending this wedding really got me thinking about the people I surround myself with and who I'm able to call a friend.

A wise person once told me that you can count on one hand the number of real friends you have. This person explained that you only count the friends that would help you at two o'clock in the morning if you were stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere and needed help. Once I got older I realized the importance of this message.

Today, I'm able to count the number of friends I have on one hand. This doesn't mean the people who wouldn't drive to save you at two o'clock in the morning aren't your friends. They could very well still be your friend. But ask yourself if the friendship is contributing to your growth.

It can be very hard to let some people leave your life, however, if the friendship is not equal and if it is not contributing to your growth as an individual, it is not worth it in the long run.

To me, friends should be the people in your life that lift you up and make life more fun and enjoyable. A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort. A strong friendship should also include, communication, commitment, and support.

A strong friendship is hard to come by. But when you find your best friend, it's all worth it.

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It’s so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.”


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can’t thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You’ve taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and more importantly adventurous.

You don’t realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn’t see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can’t see my life without you in it. It’s funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn’t know existed.

I don’t even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn’t have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the ying to my yang, and I don’t care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I’ve learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It’s as if I wished up a best friend, and poof—you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn’t trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

Cover Image Credit: Lauren Medders

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I'm The Girl Who Will ALWAYS Put 'Sisters Before Misters'

In the future, I know that when I start dating I won't forget that my best girl friends come first.


As Valentine's Day comes up next month, and I am sitting on a couch watching a Buzzfeed Unsolved marathon of season one of "True Crime" and "Supernatural," I think back to the past year and my history with my love life. The more I think about it, the more I am fine with it.

Nothing major has happened. I still haven't had my first kiss, or my first significant other, still a virgin, and all is fine.

This can be seen as a follow up to my article where I talked about how I am 19, never had a significant other, and I am still having the time of my life. Now, as I am in a new decade of my life (yes, I'm talking about my twenties), nothing much has changed.

But now I am in a point where I am sticking with a phrase. That phrase is the well-known "sisters before misters."

A feminine play on the phrase "bros before hoes," where male friends say that their friends come first and any significant other, specifically female, comes second, "sisters before misters" means that female friends come first before any significant others, specifically of the male species. A majority of my friends are girls and while I do also have friends that are guys (hi, Sean and Josh), I know that I will never think of dating them in the future as they are like brothers to me.

But I know that when I get into my first relationship, I will definitely make time for my friends.

A while ago, I was (maybe still am) texting a guy that is close friends with one of my other close friends. My friend and I have established that if I were to get into a relationship with this guy, she knows that she can trust him with me (but if he hurts me, then he is dead). But another thing that we had established was that I was hers first and then his second, no matter how many times he said I was his, and even I said that she came first hands down.

Yes, I know that I have been single for 20 years of my life. Yes, I also dabbled a bit in dating apps like Tinder and sometimes Bumble. I only went back to Tinder after a year of not having, but after the small dabble I did in 2018 I decided to stop doing Tinder. But I still have it just in case (or if I am just a bored college student and I have nothing to do in my life which I definitely do have the stuff to do in my life).

But as time goes on for me, and I continue to get older and go through the rest of my college career, I do not know when I will find my quote-unquote "one." It could be during college, or it could be after college and I meet my one and only at my place of work (where my parents met), but I would just know that I will make sure to place my lady friends that have been there for a good point of my life first.

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