True Friendship Is Difficult To Find, But It'll All Be Worth It When You Have Someone For A 2 A.M. Vent Session

True Friendship Is Difficult To Find, But It'll All Be Worth It When You Have Someone For A 2 A.M. Vent Session

A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort.


Friend. Such a simple word with such complex meanings.

When someone says "friend" there are many different meanings to it. It could mean a friend who is more than a friend and you just haven't accepted it yet. It could mean a friend who is an acquaintance and really doesn't mean much to the person, it is just easier to say friend then explain the back story. It could also mean a friend who is a real and honest person that is always there for you. There are many different interpretations of the word "friend."

I recently attended a beautiful wedding where friends were a big component. The bride and the groom's friends have been a part of their lives for many years and they act like a big family. It was so astonishing and amazing to see how they all interacted and how their parents were all friends as well.

Attending this wedding really got me thinking about the people I surround myself with and who I'm able to call a friend.

A wise person once told me that you can count on one hand the number of real friends you have. This person explained that you only count the friends that would help you at two o'clock in the morning if you were stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere and needed help. Once I got older I realized the importance of this message.

Today, I'm able to count the number of friends I have on one hand. This doesn't mean the people who wouldn't drive to save you at two o'clock in the morning aren't your friends. They could very well still be your friend. But ask yourself if the friendship is contributing to your growth.

It can be very hard to let some people leave your life, however, if the friendship is not equal and if it is not contributing to your growth as an individual, it is not worth it in the long run.

To me, friends should be the people in your life that lift you up and make life more fun and enjoyable. A strong friendship should never be one-sided; that's very draining for the person who is always making an effort. A strong friendship should also include, communication, commitment, and support.

A strong friendship is hard to come by. But when you find your best friend, it's all worth it.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


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Stop Assuming Your Queer Friends Are Going To End Up Falling For You

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none.


Ever since I came out my senior year, I've encountered bumps of my friendships due to my sexuality. I think people understand gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities rather well. However, there are other members of the LGBTQ+ community that isn't as understood as well.

I identify as pansexual but start using the term queer. Essentially, I don't have a preference if someone identifies as female or male. When it comes to love and relationships, I care about the quality of the person and if I'm getting the love and respect I deserve.

However, to some of my friends, they seemed to become afraid. They distanced themselves in our friendships in fear I would end up falling for them.

News flash: if you're my friend, the chances of me falling for you are slim to none. You are my friend for a reason. If I liked you, I would honestly be too nervous to talk to you.

It's nice to know to have that kind of self-confidence where you think everyone has a crush on you. That's the attitude to have because you are a pretty great person. However, sorry to break it to you, but you just are not my type.

There is absolutely no reason to cut off a friendship just because you don't understand. Your queer friends would probably like you to ask questions. It can be a sign you care about them and showing support. There is nothing wrong with asking questions either. When you're in class and you don't know anything, then you ask a question. When you are getting to know someone, you ask questions. Even if you knew this person for a while, ask away!

I think there is a stigma of not knowing something and feeling embarrassed. However, it shouldn't be this way. We should embrace the unknown, learn, and grow from it. It's 2019. It's all about being open-minded to differences. We have to do better for the next generation.

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