Stop Putting Yourself In The Trap Of Being In A Relationship Without The Title
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Stop Putting Yourself In The Trap Of Being In A Relationship Without The Title

Don't settle for half-assed with a full heart.

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Stop Putting Yourself In The Trap Of Being In A Relationship Without The Title
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REAL relationships seem to be a thing of the past these days.

When I say real I mean you call each other boyfriend and girlfriend, you consider the other’s thoughts and feelings when making certain decisions, and you genuinely want your relationship status to be known with them. Not this grey area garbage many in our generation seem to be trapped in.

We complain about this so-called, “hook-up generation” and the uncertainty of how to get out of it.

But the real question is, why do we lower our standards to settle?

The root of the problem is putting yourself (physically, mentally, and emotionally), in a relationship, without the “title” of a boyfriend or girlfriend.

With a noticeably large number of millennials not wanting to fully commit themselves to someone, we see this trend happening more often than not today.

Let me set up a scenario for you if you aren’t quite sure what I am referring to…

Take Bob and Gabby. They met each other and with attraction towards each other, casually started hanging out. After developing feelings for each other, and becoming obvious to their friends and those around them that they were “together” well, they practically are. They take on the majority of the roles of a boyfriend and girlfriend and are exclusive.

But, whatever their individual reasons may be, (one isn’t “ready” for a relationship, one ended a previous relationship too recently, or the like), they become trapped, you could say, in settling in the current dating status they are in.

There are downfalls that arise from these two being together.

After a while, your name becomes attached to theirs. Your friends may say, “where is so and so?” when you are out on your own terms. That really can become frustrating too. When you walk into a room and that may be one of the first things someone says to you.

It’s also awkward when nosy people wonder, "so are you and Bob going to date? What’s going on between you to?” And you’re left to fend for your complicated situation.

Let’s be honest, people don’t look at the situation with much respect, and neither do you.

If you don’t end up dating in a timely manner, here comes the all-time classic, “you deserve better.”

When all is said and done, chances are, you are still going to experience a breakup. When one wants more than the other, someone will be unhappy, in this going nowhere event. And after all of that, it was never a real relationship to begin with.

Maybe this mess is a result of our fast-paced lifestyles. The social media craze, what we see in movies and hear in music. College students working towards a future and afraid to be tied down. The old-fashioned, time consuming “dating” doesn’t fit into our busy schedules.

Unfortunately, the more casual option doesn’t always claim to be the most pleasing in the end.

We need to break these bad dating habits and stay away from getting involved in them.

When you really care about someone, you should want to give it your all. You shouldn’t settle for half when it involves your feelings towards someone. Besides that, why would you want to continue being with someone who doesn’t have the decency to call you their boyfriend or girlfriend?

Just something to think about.

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