Leaving toxic relationships

Once You Realize You Are In A Toxic Relationship, You Need To Get Out, ASAP

Your happiness and health come first!


Everyone has been in a toxic relationship, whether that was a friendship or with a significant other. You might not realize it at first. Once you figure out that you are unhappy with this person, there will be many excuses used just to stay with that person. It's important to get out when you can for your own good.

I was in a toxic friendship, but I got out of it and it was the best decision. During my senior year of high school, one of my friends was in a group chat on Discord, and he added me to it. Everything was running smoothly until this one guy texted me privately. He was having some mental health issues, so I offered him my support and tried to help him as much as I could. At this point, I saw myself as a good friend who was just giving him advice and I didn't see that there was anything wrong.

We kept talking and I started to feel annoyed. Whenever he texted me, I would dread texting him back. I brushed it off and didn't think it was a big deal. I knew he needed some help, so I continued to be there for him as much as I could. I knew his mental health was suffering, so I wanted to make sure he was okay.

After several months, it started to affect me a lot. I would get very stressed and anxious about it. I realized that this was never a friendship, to begin with. He used me as someone to dump all of his emotional baggage on. Don't get me wrong, I love helping people. I will drop everything to help someone and I enjoy trying to make people feel better. However, this was taking more of my mental energy than I could handle. After staying in it for way too long, I decided to end it, so I could focus on school and myself.

Ending it didn't go as well as I thought. On Snapchat, the place we were communicating, I sent him a message along the lines that this friendship was one-sided which wasn't healthy and it wasn't helping either of us and then I blocked him. I forgot that he had me on Instagram. He messaged me literally begging me to stay and saying that he was always there for me and it was two-sided the whole time. That was a complete lie and I blocked him on everything.

I'm very glad that I got out of it when I did. I should've left way earlier, but for toxic relationships, you never know until after all of it happened. I felt guilty since he was struggling and I knew I was the person who was getting him through it. That was the main reason I stayed in it. I eventually learned that while I did help him, I needed to make sure I was focusing on my own health. After some time of being with my true friends, I didn't feel guilty. I felt happier and less stressed. For those who are in a toxic relationship now, I hope you will be able to get out of that negativity. I know it's hard, but getting out will be so beneficial to you. I believe in you :).

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Thank You, Thomas Rhett, For Providing Us With These 9 Lyrics Reminding Us True Love Exists

If your ears have yet to be blessed with this mans heart warming music, you are missing out big time


I understand country music does not appeal to everyone out there but if you own a radio or have an instagram there is no way you have not heard the name Thomas Rhett before. Him and his childhood sweetheart Lauren live the closest thing to happily ever after one can obtain in this world. Not only did they adopt a beautiful toddler from Uganda but they just welcomed an adorable baby girl. I personally enjoy each of their posts because it revives my faith in successful relationships. These are a few of his lyrics that reestablish my belief that true love is still out there. Ladies, make sure you find yourself a Thomas Rhett.

1. "Cause everywhere we go girl you're the star of the show"


I mean come on thats just precious.

2. "I know that I can't ever tell you enough, all I need in this life is your crazy love"


I feel like thats a pretty good trade.

3. "Every time we have to say goodbye I'm counting down until we say hello"


If someone told me this I feel like my love for Zac Efron would rapidly dwindle.

4. "Girl that night was just like you, unforgettable"


Who doesn't want to be told they are unforgettable on a daily basis?!

5. "Cause you're all that I adore, you're the one my heart beats for"


Straight out of a Nicholas Sparks movie? I think yes.

6. "You're a saint, you're a goddess, the cutest, the hottest, a masterpiece"


Way better compliment than being told "your hot."

7. "Cause I've been waiting on her since the second grade and I wrote a little song about holding her hand now everyone wants to die a happy man"


If I still loved my second grade crush I don't think I would be writing a song about true love.

8. "I could try to find her get it off my chest now, but I don't want to mess it up so I wish her the best now"


This song gets me every time. He loves her so much that he would hold back his feelings in order for her to be happy. You get a Prince Charming and you get a Prince Charming!

9. "If all I got is your hand in my hand, baby I could die a happy man"


I would not be complaining if a guy was writing these beautiful lyrics about me. (Thomas Rhetts really beautiful wife pictured above).

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How Happiness In A Relationship Is So Important

What is the happiness and love that we as individuals deserve when it comes to our relationship?


It's different for each of us. Some prefer being showered in gifts, being showed off on social media, bragged about to family and friends. But, what is the one thing that all of those have in common?

That would be the unmistakable amount of love your significant other has for you, that they will do anything to show you that they love you unconditionally. We all show our love for one another in various ways. I for one love being shown the love someone else has for me in small things they do.

It could be a simple 'good morning love' text message or even just a hug out of the blue. Knowing that someone cares so deeply about you is one of life's greatest gifts. Knowing that another human being loves you and wants to be with you, it makes us drunk off of love and our heads float up to the stars.

However, when we don't feel that love, that connection, that reassurance from our significant other that they love and care for us back, it can be an extremely overwhelming and a lonely feeling.

We start looking for those feelings and connections elsewhere. In our friends for reassurance if we look good or blowing up their phones for attention.

We start caring about if other people find us attractive or not, we relish in compliments that other people give us. We start looking for that happiness elsewhere. It's not because you stop loving your significant other or stop caring about them, but we as humans need to feel important and like we are needed by another person.

When you stop letting your significant other know how much you care about them or showcasing your love for them, even if it's a simple gesture like holding their hand or holding the door open for them, they will begin to look elsewhere.

Now I am in no way saying that they will cheat on you, but your relationship and their attitude and feelings towards you will never be the same until you start showing them how much they mean to you just as much as they do for you. I don't condone cheaters or staying in a relationship that you are not happy in.

Yes, some relationships go through hard times like distance or a traumatic event. However, the way I see it is if you entered into the relationship, to begin with, you obviously cared about that person a lot and if they show you that they care and love you for the person you are and your past then they deserve the same in return from you.

Relationships are not always easy, they take time, determination, communication, compromise, and love to stay afloat. If one of you isn't willing to give your all and put forth the effort needed then it will never work. A relationship can't be successful if it is only one-sided.

Despite peoples life's being busy on a day to day basis, you need to always find time for your significant other. Because at the end of the day when things hit the fan, your significant other should be the one that will be there no matter what and always be by your side.

All in all, you need to treat each other the way in which you would want to be treated in a relationship and treat them the way they should be treated despite whatever chaos is going on in the world about you. Love is the conquer of all and should never be thrown around or not taken seriously.

Loving someone else is a gift we are given by God and never taken lightly.

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