Once You Realize You Are In A Toxic Relationship, You Need To Get Out, ASAP

Once You Realize You Are In A Toxic Relationship, You Need To Get Out, ASAP

Your happiness and health come first!


Everyone has been in a toxic relationship, whether that was a friendship or with a significant other. You might not realize it at first. Once you figure out that you are unhappy with this person, there will be many excuses used just to stay with that person. It's important to get out when you can for your own good.

I was in a toxic friendship, but I got out of it and it was the best decision. During my senior year of high school, one of my friends was in a group chat on Discord, and he added me to it. Everything was running smoothly until this one guy texted me privately. He was having some mental health issues, so I offered him my support and tried to help him as much as I could. At this point, I saw myself as a good friend who was just giving him advice and I didn't see that there was anything wrong.

We kept talking and I started to feel annoyed. Whenever he texted me, I would dread texting him back. I brushed it off and didn't think it was a big deal. I knew he needed some help, so I continued to be there for him as much as I could. I knew his mental health was suffering, so I wanted to make sure he was okay.

After several months, it started to affect me a lot. I would get very stressed and anxious about it. I realized that this was never a friendship, to begin with. He used me as someone to dump all of his emotional baggage on. Don't get me wrong, I love helping people. I will drop everything to help someone and I enjoy trying to make people feel better. However, this was taking more of my mental energy than I could handle. After staying in it for way too long, I decided to end it, so I could focus on school and myself.

Ending it didn't go as well as I thought. On Snapchat, the place we were communicating, I sent him a message along the lines that this friendship was one-sided which wasn't healthy and it wasn't helping either of us and then I blocked him. I forgot that he had me on Instagram. He messaged me literally begging me to stay and saying that he was always there for me and it was two-sided the whole time. That was a complete lie and I blocked him on everything.

I'm very glad that I got out of it when I did. I should've left way earlier, but for toxic relationships, you never know until after all of it happened. I felt guilty since he was struggling and I knew I was the person who was getting him through it. That was the main reason I stayed in it. I eventually learned that while I did help him, I needed to make sure I was focusing on my own health. After some time of being with my true friends, I didn't feel guilty. I felt happier and less stressed. For those who are in a toxic relationship now, I hope you will be able to get out of that negativity. I know it's hard, but getting out will be so beneficial to you. I believe in you :).

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To My Boyfriend's Mom

He loves you more than you could ever imagine...

Without you, there would not be a him, so first things first, thank you.

1. Thank you for teaching him to love a woman the right way, to put God first, and YOU before me always, the respect he shows you is so attractive, and you deserve it.

He talks about you like you hung the moon, I don't doubt for a second that he will be an amazing father one day, I owe all of that to you.

2. Thank you for giving me a chance, learning to love me when you knew your son was doing the same.

I can't speak for my own first impressions, but hopefully mine was not THAT bad...when we both slapped him on the arms for his rude remark at the same time, I knew our relationship was already blossoming.

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3. Thank you for every meal you have ever purchased me.

And chocolate, and candy...you know just as well as your son does that food is the way to my heart. Especially Taco Bell and cheesecake ;)

4. Thank you for your advice, suggestions, and opinions...and asking for mine

Whether it's telling me to slap him for being a smart a$$, or you're asking me about color swabs for your kitchen makeover, you come to me as if I am your own, and I am so honored to give you my own input.

5. Thank you for including me

You never fail to leave a spot for me, and I love family dinners/outings with you guys just as much as I love my own!

6. Thank you for teaching your son to never give up, and that if he does it is only to better himself, or it's the only choice he has left.

He is so focused on his future, he wants the best for himself, and he is constantly reminding me that these are things that YOU taught him, you deserve to be so proud.

7. Thank you for letting him love my family, and allowing me to love yours.

He is so loyal and loving to my family, and I don't even have to ask myself why because I see him with you and yours. Thank you for letting us double up on holidays when we can, and making sure we get the most out of our time with you!

8. Thank you for being his best friend.

I think of him as mine too, but I couldn't think of a better person to also hold that title, you know him better than anyone else and you always will.

9. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a woman

He is constantly telling me "You sound like my mother." Thankfully earlier in our relationship, he told me that the woman he wants to be with, should do just that. He always tells people who try, "No, no one calls me by my full name except my mom and my girlfriend."

10. Thank you for your honesty

We all know that he and I can drive you crazy sometimes, thank you for telling us like it is, and making sure we know you still love us anyways.

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11. Thank you for teaching him to work as hard as possible in anything and everything he does.

I have never met anyone with such a desire for success, he and I are constantly discussing how we can better our futures, and I know exactly where his drive comes from.

12. Thank you for teaching him to clean up after himself

Even though sometimes, it takes him a minute to do so.

13. Thank you for teaching him how to love, and letting him love me.

I have never felt so loved by a man, probably because anyone else who came into my life was just a boy. Thank you for your unconditional love for him, he is your entire heart and that is so easy to see, I am happy to share his with you.

You and I both know that even years from now we will both occasionally probably be closing the fridge that he left open, cleaning the crumbs he dropped, demanding he take a shower after playing soccer, or reminding him 20 times about plans we made weeks ago, we both share such a great love for such an amazing man. I could never be more thankful that you brought forth into this world such a comforting, supportive, protective, steadfast, driven, handsome, and hilarious guy. Thank you for everything you do for him, for me, and for us, I love you a lot!

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A Well-Deserved And Long Overdue Thank You To My Boyfriend

I know it's cliché, but he deserves it.


Thank you for choosing me and loving me unconditionally every day. I do not deserve the love that you radiate, but I am beyond thankful for it. Thank you for showing me kindness in every action and for listening to every pointless story I have. Thank you for being the person I can go to 24/7 with any piece of news. Thank you for being the only person who can make me laugh when I am not in the mood at all. Thank you for picking up all of my pieces and wiping all of my tears. Thank you for making sure I always feel loved.

Thank you for believing in pinky promises just as much as I do and for making sure you never break them. Thank you for always reassuring me even though it gets annoying. Thank you for believing in me and pushing me out of my comfort zone. Thank you for knowing when I need a confidence boost, when I need a push, or when I just need a shoulder to cry on. Thank you for taking the time to learn everything about me.

Thank you for never giving up on me no matter how grumpy I get or how hard our week has been. Thank you for never going to sleep mad and always saying "I love you" before we leave. Thank you for the tight squeezes and play fights. Thank you for the deep belly laughs and jam sessions in the car. Thank you for the late-night phone calls when I can't sleep and for doing everything you can to make me better when I'm sick. Thank you for loving me no matter what and no matter when. Thank you for all of the memories. Thank you for holding on tight and never letting go.

Thank you for being everything I could ever want and for showing me what love really is.

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