You there, the one who is always stuck in their phone trying to find the right words to text back to the one and only person you talk to every day. The one who always looks a little miserable and is always complaining about something that they said to you. The one sitting inside, waiting for them to text you back or ask you to go out or do anything remotely romantic. Yeah...you. You need to hear a few words today.
First of all: you are worth way more than what they are showing you. You are worth a text back, you deserve fancy dates, you don't need to be in pointless arguments every single day. I doubt that anyone has ever told you this before, but you are worth more than this shit. You should not be sitting around and waiting for someone to show interest in you or show that they want to be with you. Someone who makes you wait around for them and wonder if they really love you...really isn't worth your time.
This is hard for you to grasp, because you will deny that there is anything wrong at all. You will insist that you love them more than anything in the world until your face turns blue. You will defend absolutely every action of theirs until it makes perfect sense. You will even go so far as to blame yourself for things that are really their fault - just so they don't look bad. Whenever someone else tells you that they aren't good for you, you start to make excuses.
"He isn't always like this."
"She's just in a bad mood."
"Today is just a bad day."
No. Nothing is an excuse for your significant other to neglect you and treat you like you aren't worth anything to them. If you are putting effort in and showing them that they mean the world to you...they should put in the same amount of effort. Don't let them off the hook when they are mistreating you. Stand up for yourself. Let yourself be heard. Tell them when something is bothering you. Do not let them walk all over you, don't let them think that what they are doing is okay. More importantly, don't let yourself think that what they're doing is okay. It isn't okay if you feel neglected, left out, abandoned, mistreated, or even slightly emotionally abused. It isn't okay, it will never be okay. You need to acknowledge that and make sure that they also acknowledge it.
Listen...if they don't take time out of their day to talk to you. If they can't take two seconds to tell you how much you mean to them, they aren't worth it. If they ignore you, lie to you, make you suspicious that they aren't being truly honest...maybe they aren't worth it. If they make you more miserable than happy then maybe it is time that you start telling yourself how very un-worth it they might be.
If they can't see how brilliant, strong, loving, and absolutely amazing you are, then they do not deserve to be with you. Yes, maybe you are in love with them...but sometimes love only goes so far. If someone is mistreating you, do not put up with it. If they aren't making you happy, if they aren't showing you the respect that you deserve - do not give them the honor of being in your life. Love yourself just a little bit more than you love them and let them go. Let yourself be happy and find someone who is worth your time. Someone who will honor you and respect you and love you in a way that you deserve. Don't settle for anything less. Ever.
