We've all heard about relationships being toxic, but rarely does anyone consider the possibility of a friendship being toxic. For many reasons, we all overlook the unacceptable behavior of our loved ones and create excuses to justify their treatment. After all, friendships have always been viewed as a "good thing." Friendships play an important role in our lives –– shaping us into empathetic human beings and providing us with a much needed support system. So how can a friendship ever be considered toxic?
1. They become mad at you easily.
It is normal to experience friction in a friendship, but toxic friends are quick to anger at the smallest things you do. Following the inevitable argument you two will have, you end up feeling remorseful and apologetic. This is an indication that your toxic friend is incapable of communicating properly and in a mature manner.
2. They utilize the gas-lighting effect.
Gas-lighting is the purest form of manipulation. Your toxic friend will manipulate you into believing that you are imagining things, but in reality, these things are occurring. As an example, you may accuse your friend of only communicating with you when they are in need, and they will attempt to convince you otherwise. They will twist the true situation at hand and make you feel guilty for bringing up the subject.
3. They never listen to any of your problems.
You are always available when your toxic friend needs to talk and is seeking advice, but the moment you're looking for this in return, he/she is nowhere to be found.
4. They never consider your feelings.
The worst thing is when a person fails to validate your feelings. If you have a friend who never considers your feelings or cares enough to speak with you about them, then this person is toxic and doesn't need to be a part of your life.
5. They are neither happy nor proud of your success.
If a friend is not happy or proud for your successes, they are toxic because they do not support you or your endeavors.
6. They don't care enough to reach out to you.
It is the worst when you feel like a friendship is one-sided. If your friend never reaches out to you and you find yourself making the effort to communicate first, you have a toxic friend.
I'm sure that we have all encountered toxic friends, but it is important that we relieve ourselves of these people. If you (or anyone else you know) is currently a victim of a toxic friendship, get out as quickly as you can! Do not feel like you are hurting the other person. Remember all of the situations in which they hurt you. There is never anything wrong with valuing yourself, your sanity and your genuineness.
