To The Younger Me

To The Younger Me

The six things I wish I could go back and tell my old self.

During my past 19 years of life I had always felt rather lonely. That is, until I got here: college. However, these are things you simply cannot express to other people in your high school. In high school, you cannot risk seeming weak, because the vultures will prey on it. No one can ever know the real you, because you cannot risk your reputation. Well... to hell with your so called reputation. If I could go back, I know there are several things I would tell my old self.

1. Not all girls are mean like they are in high school.

Hold the phone! This is not a joke. Not all girls are not mean like they are in high school. Growing up, I was always that girl that was one of the guys, because the guys were just less drama. The sad thing is that it starts young. If you did not own an Aeropostale shirt in 5th grade, you might as well have been the kid that ate dirt. During high school, you try to do things, say things, wear things, and be something that you're not to impress people that you don't even like!

I'm here to let you know that college isn't like that... at all. Your best friends are girls that are exactly like you, yet they're their own person. You've only known these people for six weeks, yet you've shared more of who you truly are with them than you ever did with people from back home. And to be quite honest, you could probably be wearing a onesie and they would genuinely believe you are the fabulous person that you are.

2. People don't always thrive off your failures.

Growing up in a small town isn't the easiest thing in the world. Don't get me wrong, I will never forget where I came from. Marshall, Illinois gave me more scholarships and memories than I can ever repay it for. But the problem with small towns is that everyone knows everyone. We all know who has money, who goes to church on Sunday, and we even know the name of the crazy old man that rides his bike across town. While some of these things are convenient, everyone is waiting for you to fail. If you're in the lead for valedictorian and you get a B, your "friends" will be there for you, but they'll secretly be thriving off your loss. If you get a boyfriend, you better watch out cause next thing you know you're pregnant. You haven't noticed any symptoms, but man the town sure does know more about your life than you do.

However, true friends do not wish the worst for you. Good people are out there, you just have to find them. When you did bad on you first calculus test, your friend showed up to the dorms and surprised you with your favorite ice cream. When you go to college, you are surrounded by good vibes and constant happiness. There is no longer that sense of competition. All you want is for your best friends to be happy and successful, and I am sure they wish the same for you.

3. It's OK to ask for help.

I wish someone would have told you that it is OK to ask for help. I wish I could explain to eight-year-old-me that it wasn't your fault when you had melt downs. You are not your anxiety. You are not your depression. You are not your panic attacks. You are beautiful in every way. Finally, at 18 years old you admitted that prescription medicine might be the best way to go. This is nothing to be ashamed of; you know that now. Your only regret is that you did not reach out and ask for help sooner.

4. Money was tight, but it wasn't that tight.

You didn't have to eat a 30 cent doughnut for lunch every day in junior high. Mom wouldn't have been mad if you would have asked her to send the school money. I have talked to her myself, and you should have talked to her back then. Money was tight, but not tight enough you had to go hungry all day.

5. It will all work out in the end.

I remember being laughed at for being a "tryhard." Everyone teased that my math book was my bible and I should go study some more flashcards. All I wanted to do was explain my story to them. Maybe if they knew that in third grade my mom told me "I don't have a college fund for you," they would understand. Just to be clear, my mom was not saying this, because she did not want to help me. My parents would give me everything in the world if they could, but unfortunately some of us are dealt on the lower hand in life.

You didn't have to have to work as much as you did. You didn't need to work holidays and every weekend. You probably shouldn't have agreed to work until 12 a.m. on school nights. You should not have worried yourself sick about how you were going to pay for school. If only back then you would have known that you would pay off a 2011 Kia Soul and your first year of college without taking out loans, you would have saved yourself a lot of stress. But, life is beautiful and a crazy ride. There are ups and downs, so just enjoy the present and have hope for the future.

6. You are going to be someone.

There will be times when people will try to bring you down. There will be people that try and tell you that you are going nowhere in your life. There will be bullies that make excuses and say that you get handed everything. They’ll try to say you don’t deserve homecoming queen or team captain. But, do not, under any circumstances, give in to these people. Don’t let someone else’s envy make you doubt yourself; because, you are going to be someone.

I know this because you already are.

You were important then, and you are important now.

I wish I could go back and tell the old me where I would end up. But, I bet she wouldn't believe me. I'm OK with that though, because she was in for the best surprise of her life. The biggest piece of advice I can give is don't blink. One day you're struggling and stressing, and the next day you're walking to class on a beautiful campus, crying tears of joy because you did it. And you really did.

You made it.

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First Week At Work: Tips And Tricks As Told By Timothee Chalamet

Because everyone could use some advice in this department, and have some eye candy to look at too.

After months of looking and sending in applications, I recently started my first job at the late age of nineteen as a waitress and counter person at a local Italian restaurant. I have worked there for two weeks, but have only just begun taking home my tips. Over the past week, I have also been struggling to find time to write articles, and so for this one I am going to be telling all the kids about the first week of a new job through Timothee Chalamet gifs, with little tips and tricks here and there.

The training period.

Training sucks, and yet is simultaneously probably the most boring time I have ever had in my life. Still, you make mistakes, but if you’re lucky you’ll have a good group of people behind you. I met with a good number of my coworkers on the first day, and all of them were absolute sweethearts. I couldn’t have asked for a better bunch to work with. But the training! It was absolutely nerve wracking, especially dealing with people who want food as much as you do after four hours. It takes awhile to get use to being on your feet when you have not in… ever, but sometimes the time flies and you barely notice it.

Meeting the coworkers.

I touched on this vaguely above, but there’s more to say. I would highly recommend making friends with the coworkers you have, or at least greeting them with the utmost smile and wave when you first come in and leaving it as an open invitation. As I said before, they are the biggest sweethearts I have come across, and not just because they make me free food. I’m never bored at work, and to be quite frank, I was suppose to go in today and was bummed that I could not- even if I had to do homework. I love their company, and I feel very welcomed there. Not every workplace is like this, but if you give out an open invitation- even if you’re shy, you’ll find someone who makes it worth your while.

Balancing school life and work life.

Okay so this one isn't Timothee but this gift of Michael Stuhlbarg speaking to Timothee spoke to me on a deep level about this. This is proving a struggle on me as of late. Last night I got a zero on an assignment which I worked on for seven hours. How, may you ask? Because I was distracted in conversation and I forgot to download the proper file. I’m sure it’s possible, and I am determined to make it work, but it’s a challenge. Don’t ever underestimate it, because it will quickly whip you into shape. I would highly recommend, if possible, to get ahead on your assignments on your off day. Yes, it is time consuming, but in the end, isn’t it all about getting that money? And, just another bit of advice, if it does become a challenge there is no shame in deciding that it’s not your time to work. I had come to that conclusion awhile back when I first started, and even though my mind has changed, I still hold the same opinion. Those who say “you will always be stressed out in the real world” don’t understand that realistically, in the real world you will not have to do school work and balance a part time job. Am I saying to quit immediately? No, because the work experience is needed, but give it a month minimum before deciding.

Don't sweat your mistakes.

Take every day as a new opportunity. I'll be totally honest and say right now, I cried three nights already because I was so stressed and tired, and embarrassed over my mistakes. Luckily, the support system I have there is amazing, but regardless of how bad or how good your support system is, it's up to you to take everything as a learning opportunity. It's okay. Just breath, everything is going to work out. There is a reason that they have training, and after all, it is your first job. Things are bound to get messed up, it's up to you to learn from it. Eventually, you'll be a pro.

Take advantage of your off days.

This is pretty self explanatory but if I had a nickle for every off day I wasted, I would probably make up the money I made in tips on training and didn't get to keep. Do homework, read your book, study, do something but don't sleep all day, no matter how tempting. Even if you wake up at eleven, it's still better than sleeping past two. Got homework you need to do that could wait? Don't do it when you get off, just wait. Take your breather and sleep.

In the end, the first job will either be fun, or a stepping stone into something bigger. Take advantage of the new skills you acquire, because you won't find them anywhere else than on the floor.

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Elisabeth Carell, Choose UMich Because You KNOW We’re The Best Big 10

We are a community that sticks with you forever, an amazing network that’ll take you above and beyond.

After stopping at the University of Wisconsin-Madison for the bathroom and some food, the Carell’s arrived at the University of Michigan for a real tour of an *actual* school.

Multiple students spotted Elisabeth’s parents, Steve and Nancy Carell throughout the day. They were kind enough to stop and take pictures with them, and when one student called out “Michael!” Steve turned around and laughed with the 20-year-old. As amazing as it was to have these two on our campus, that isn’t the point of this article.

Dear Elisabeth Carell,

We hope you enjoyed visiting the one and only University of Michigan. This school is one of a kind; wear a Michigan hat or shirt around any town in the United States and you are bound to get “Go Blue!” yelled to you throughout the day. We are a community that sticks with you forever, an amazing network that’ll take you above and beyond.

1. Game days are no competition

From being woken up at 7 a.m. to getting ready, to the euphoric tailgates to WINNING, nothing beats a Michigan game day. Nothing. Being in the Big House thousands decked out in Maize and Blue is incomparable, you will never feel more a part of something than you do when you are all cheering for our football team in that stadium. And trust me, you want to go to a school where they actually win their games.

Anyone that goes to the school can go on and on about all the traditions we have at this school.

2. At some point during your time here, you will most definitely paint the rock

What’s on the rock changes each day, sometimes even multiple times a day.

3. We have a giant Spinning cube

The Cube” as most people call it, brings good luck. Students and alumni are known to spin it when they walk by.

4. The traditions start as soon as you become a wolverine

During orientation we walk through the fountain towards the diag, symbolizing the beginning of us as a Wolverine. Then on graduation day, the students walk through the fountain again towards the graduate school, symbolizing their bright futures.

5. Kissing under the West Engineering Arch

It is known that if you kiss someone at midnight under the Arch before you’re 21, then this is the one you will marry.


I swear this is real, in the middle of the diag lays a brass M, if you step on it you will fail your first blue book exam. The only way to reverse this is to run to the Natural History Museum from the M, kiss the two stone pumas and run back between the first and last stroke of midnight –naked.

7. Our campus is beautiful

You can always count on something going on in the diag and people laying in hammocks or walking on tightropes tied between trees. The Arb, the buildings, the views, it’s all exactly what you could want for a college campus.

8. State Street

There are tons of “state streets” across the country, but nothing quite compares to this one. There is art and culture everywhere you look, amazing clothing stores and of course this gorgeous street brings me to…food.

9. Food

From Frita Batidos to Fred’s to Zingerman’s, the list goes on and on.


11. The education

Our clubs and activities are endless. There is a place for everyone and so much opportunity. The faculty care, they want to see you succeed. I have heard many stories where faculty have introduced a job or an internship to a student that skyrocketed their career. With all the classes and majors you could want, Michigan specializes in anything and anyone with passion. That’s what makes us so great.

This is where the best memories and friendships happen, I promise. College can be hard, but lucky as a student at one of the best universities I’ve fallen in love with this place faster than I’d ever think. You go in and faster than you would imagine you are able to find connection unlike any other. This is where it's at.

Come here to have the best college experience you could ever ask for.


The entire UofM student body

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