I'm sure we have all been there there's the boy or girl we like and fall hard and fast for, texting them, trying to connect and possibly build something with them in the form of a relationship and they could care less.

Despite their annoying ways of not answering your calls, responding to your texts and canceling plans you continue to try. Why?

I will never forget the first time I had my heart broken; I was with him for a year and a half. I had sworn up and down he was it and nearly two years later after our break up I realized how wrong I was. At the time he was everything I wanted, he was funny, smart and held a job while going to school and he had future plans. I figured that was all it took to make a relationship work. It wasn't until I grew up some and realized while he had future plans ours weren't on the same wavelength. While he was planning his career and nothing more I was planning my career and future marriage and often pondered the family I have always wanted to have of my own in the future. He gave me his attention, his time, his love and he was the first love. While I had a relationship that lasted over a year with someone I have also been the girl who has liked someone who didn't waste a second of their time on me.

The feeling of someone talking to you when it's only convienient for them while you go out of your way to talk to them and make plans they put you last to everything.

Eventually in the process we get to the point it hurts too much to care and we stop putting effort in, since they don't put any in to begin with the fizzle dies out. While we could be with someone who adores us and treats us the way we deserve we try everything to be with the person we want. I will never understand why besides the heart wants what it wants and even if people treat us like shit society has told us to only expect it and to believe chivalry is dead. I believe in holding the door open for others, picking up the tab every once in a while regardless if you are the guy or girl in the relationship and to find someone who loves you as much as you love them. In my first relationship I loved him whole heartedly and I question if he loved me as much, at this point I'm with someone who loves me as much as I love him and it is the greatest relationship I could ask for.

While we seem to waste our time on people who could care less about us being in their life we could be with someone who finds us special, who finds the imperfections to be perfect, who will move our hair out of our eyes, find you beautiful when you wake up, who will watch Netflix with you all day and not leave the house and someone who makes you never question if they care. Everyone is deserving of love even those who don't love others easily. Giving love can be exhausting but is one of the best feelings if it is reciprocated. When my boyfriend lost his best friend I made him dinner while my stomach was hungry and I went to bed without dinner that night to comfort him, in return he has spent my anxiety attacks next to me reassuring me it would be okay.

There is someone out there who will be there for you and love you in the ways you deserve. Please forget about the current fuck boy/girl in your life who isn't appreciating your best effort. Go out there find someone fabulous and be happy! Life is too short to be anything but happy and it has taken me a long time to realize that. Never be afraid to walk away from something that isn't good for you.

Always love yourself before you love anyone else, and be smart enough to know what you truly deserve.

xoxo.