I have had my heart broken, I have been lied to, I have been deceived and I have been used. Through one of the most painful experiences I learned the most. I learned to be stronger. I learned what was OK and what was not OK. I learned how I should be treated compared to how I shouldn't be treated. I learned my worth by going through such a petrifying experience and by learning all of these things I live with no regret. To the person contemplating taking their ex back, don't settle. Don't be with someone who didn't fight for you from the beginning. Don't be with someone who makes you feel like you are hard to love. Don't think staying with them while they are hurting you is being a "ride or die" because that is not what being a "ride or die" is; that is continuing to let them hurt you and while doing so making their controlling ego much bigger and your self-esteem smaller and most importantly the pain last a lot longer.
It is hard to let go, but it can be done. I was once told by someone I hold close to my heart that when you let go something much better comes along and I verify this statement to be true. Letting go of sadness, anger and all of the despair and pain allows and creates room for happiness, laughter and smiles. Letting go of toxic people creates more room for healthy, good quality people.
Don't get me wrong; loving someone who is hurting you or has hurt you is OK, but to continue to let them hurt you isn't. The hardest part is the state you are in right now, trying to decide whether to keep moving forward or go backward. They see what they had, but hear me out. Don't go back; the simplicity of it is you cant find happiness where you lost it. I know you're thinking that maybe they've changed and they might have, but what they did and who they were are not completely gone. That part of them is still deep down in there. Don't let yourself be put in the position that you wake up with fear of them being exactly how they were before, and don't give them the chance to leave you again. Don't give them the chance to let you into the heart that you had to recreate by picking up the pieces of your old one that they destroyed. Don't let yourself have the chance to live with regret of going back and hating yourself for doing so. None of this should have the chance to be at play.
Look back and see how far you have come. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are. Look at the strength and happiness you have gained. You are amazing, and they couldn't see that then and they won't see it now. That does not mean it isn't there. it just means that God has someone out there who will see it from day one and never lose sight of it, or lose sight of you and will spend every single day making you feel like the amazing person you truly are. I know you sometimes become impatient, not thinking you'll ever get this, but you will. Good things come to those who wait. Each one of you is a beautiful child of God. He loves you, and I pray you love yourself enough to know when someone else truly loves you too. The wait may seem forever, but when meeting "the one" time will stand still and you'll be forever thankful that you didn't go back. To the person contemplating going back to their ex, you are much more than going backwards.
Jeremiah 29:11: "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"
xoxo
-neverlosefaith
