Hi,

I want to keep this short because I don’t want you to take advantage of my time. However, I feel that this needs to be addressed.

You take advantage of people. You took advantage of me and others, including some of my best friends, more times than I can count. Money, transportation, sympathy. Everything. Whatever you needed, you made someone else give it to you. You never worked for it.

You talk a big game. You tell everyone your sad story and how you’ve worked for everything you have. Have you? As long as I knew you, I didn’t see you work for much. Everything you got was handed to you; you didn’t earn any of it. You took advantage of people and played them to get what you wanted. That’s not working for what you have; that’s taking advantage of the kindness of others.

I’m not trying to be rude or harsh. That’s not my intention. I’m trying to make you understand that manipulating people is not how you get what you want in life. You need to truly work for it. And it won’t be easy. You can’t give up because it’s hard or inconvenient for you. That doesn’t help you reach your goals.

You can’t treat other people the way that you do. You seem to have little respect for others unless they can offer you something you want. You don’t seem to value relationships with other people unless they do something for you. But here’s the kicker: you never do anything for anyone else, including people who have helped you countless times. How can you expect others to help you and then never help them in return? That’s called taking advantage of others.

I didn’t see it at the time, but you took advantage of me the entire time I knew you. My friends saw it because you took advantage of them, too, but I didn’t listen to them, and that’s one of my biggest regrets. You cannot manipulate people into doing things because they feel sorry for you or sorry about your situation. You cannot manipulate people into doing things because you have convinced them that they owe you something. You cannot manipulate people into doing things. It’s immoral, and, frankly, it’s disgusting.

I’m lucky; you didn’t break me with what you did. But now I hesitate to do things for others now out of fear that they will take advantage of me like you did. I still do things for other people because that’s who I am. But I keep my guard up a little higher now because of you.

It seems to me that you’ve gotten what you have in life because you take advantage of everyone around you with a big heart. You need to break this cycle. That is the only way people will trust you. That is the only way people will respect you as a person. That’s what you want, isn’t it? You always said it was.

Prove it.

Sincerely,

The Girl You Didn’t Break